Is doing good, not good?

[donq]

Once (30 years ago or so) I was in one of my favorite bookstores, I saw a lady asking a sale person there about some books. He didn't seem to understand the English she spoke. I finally decided to go to help (even I knew what might happen). I told her that the books she was looking were on this and that bookshelves. I always spent time in many libraries and many bookstores, so I kind of knew which books were on which shelves. That lady took aback and walked away. At least, that sale person seemed to understand and thankfully smiled to me.

After I told the story above to one of my friends, she commented, "About the woman in the bookstore, maybe you could have asked her if she wanted help before imposing on her".
Is that the case? I was really imposing on her? I really cannot recall whether I asked her if she wanted my help.

What do you think?

[gruntal]

I remember about 50 years when I was working in a tropical fish shop and a very average looking young girl was waiting in line for me to check her out. She held some sort of fish medicine. She proceeded to ask all the young handsome guys in line for their advice. This was near the beach and a veritable haven for the "beautiful people". And quite frankly any hobby oriented place like a tropical fish store could easily double as a "pick up" place.

But this girl was so plain she had an air of desperation to even get noticed.

I was attempting to help my customers with my superior knowledge of fish but alas some people there just wanted to see and be seen. My boss even tried to set me up for a lunch date with Desarai the traveling sandwich salesman from Stottlemires Beauty and the Feast but I just assumed I was there for business.

[aceofcups]

hi

i think it also depends at times on personality makeup of person your trying to help. some people like to be spoon fed from others... others strongly like to make up their own mind of their choices about things.

even more so about except ideas and excepting ideas and beliefs from others.

a lot of people don't like being preached to....

even if we feel ourselves we think we are helping... the receiver may not feel the same.

sometimes less is more then enough.

[donq]

Hi George,

Yes, somehow I also thought of that. I mean, she might misunderstood me like that. But if I recall it right, that lady was far from pretty. And that was why I decided to help her.

Hi Charlie,

You were right. It's also about whom we are going to help.
Ah! somehow, reading your post made me realize something. Yes, I also wanted to help that sale person. In this aspect, I might succeed, more or less.

[aceofcups]

Monty

The other thing I forgot to mention is being attached to results when being of service to others... in Hindu philosophy and same ideas of attachments are held in the higher teaching and understanding of many religious philosophies... sometimes their exact wording is different:

Don't be attached to the fruits of your labor...

from an energetic perspective it totally changes outcome and usefulness of energy of whole situation if one does it from the heart with clinging or wanting results for self (if either consciously or unconsciously)... and if one does it from heart with compassionate non-attachment.