Post by duminy89 on Dec 21, 2016 14:44:28 GMT
Unfortunately, some of my uncle, aunt's and family members have bullied me and for no reason what so ever.
I am the only member in my family to have been treated like this and unfortunately it hurts a lot. Because of the bullying, having lost my mother at the age of 11, life was almost too tough to handle because my home life was very bad with my sister being a bit of bully too and some controlling behaviours.
They have remorse, no apologies, no compassion.
These are some of the things I've gone through:
1) My grandma was very mean towards me. I remember when I was about 5, I think I was naughty, I believe she/my aunty tied me up in a rope. She only favoured my sister and I remember her being very mean towards me when I was young, calling me names even slapping me for no reason once. I do remember her calling me names everytime she seen me. She recently passed away.
Unfortunately I lost my mom when I was 11 years old.
2)My uncle bullied me one who lives 3 hours drive away, this is what he's done:
I can be a bit quiet, however, it's down to not knowing what to say, on a holiday in Germany, my uncle said when I was 18, "if you don't talk, who will marry you".
He went on holiday in 2010, which he visited my house and told me in "I've got you a wife from India" in a sterile, disrespectful way,
At my other uncle's house, he said, can you eat this as in to mock my cultural skills.
When my younger sister passed her second year and I was in my first year, they looked at me hoping I would get jealous:
This is the absolute worst that has happened to me:
I was at my uncle's house in 2011, he was sitting their on the sofa adjacent to me, he suddenly said "can you cook" I said "yes". Then my uncle and everyone was talking about going to the pub and he was saying he's not going to take me. Then suddenly he said to my dad "are you worried your son's not going to get a wife"..........my dad said he will. There was some more chatter and my dad said I am a man now and with he's fingers pointing, he said "look at him, he's not a man"...........WTF. Then we went home, my main uncle wasn't in the sitting room at that time. He never bothered to phone to apologise or nothing.
I remember I was upstairs when he came to my house, when I came down, he called me a "scardy cat" in my language or where is that "scardy cat".
I remember when I was looking for work, he started smirking and told my father to get me a job in the factory.
At a 2014 christmas party at my uncle's house, we was looking at her daughters engagement video and their was a still image of a nice looking girl and he told me why don't you go for her. So he was picking on me in front of others.
When he and his wife came back from India for her daughters wedding in January 2015, he got my father and my sister a present, I noticed they did not get me anything.
He came to visit my house over Christmas 2015 and he said do you have a girlfriend, I said no which he went onto say can't you get one, I said I'm not looking for one.
Back in 2012 he said you do you have a girlfriend and he said why don't you go out on holidays, I was going to say I've been busy with my work, however, his wife went onto blurt, he's got no friends.
3) My aunty from my local area said things like I'm fat(I'm not fat), I'm too scared, when I went to her house recently she said "what can I cook". She even complains I only come to visit her sons to mess about.
4) Her youngest son said when I was younger "I thought you was thick" he ignores me and acknowledges everyone of my cousins and he has been rude.
5) My aunty who is the wife of the husband who leaves 3 hours away cut me out on the camera at a christmas party a couple of years ago and told my cousin to go towards her right so she can block me and she has been a bit mean and arrogant eavesdropping in my convo's. She even said when I was young my sister colour betters than me.
My dad was mean to me too, he told me not to go out, not to make friends when I'm a teenager, because I'm going to get married anyway. Also he did pick on me when I was at university and put on the spot a couple of times saying "take my sister" to holidays and there is only "my sister". I also remember him when we moved house he shouted at me for no reason.
I am the only member in my family to have been treated like this and unfortunately it hurts a lot. Because of the bullying, having lost my mother at the age of 11, life was almost too tough to handle because my home life was very bad with my sister being a bit of bully too and some controlling behaviours.
They have remorse, no apologies, no compassion.
These are some of the things I've gone through:
1) My grandma was very mean towards me. I remember when I was about 5, I think I was naughty, I believe she/my aunty tied me up in a rope. She only favoured my sister and I remember her being very mean towards me when I was young, calling me names even slapping me for no reason once. I do remember her calling me names everytime she seen me. She recently passed away.
Unfortunately I lost my mom when I was 11 years old.
2)My uncle bullied me one who lives 3 hours drive away, this is what he's done:
I can be a bit quiet, however, it's down to not knowing what to say, on a holiday in Germany, my uncle said when I was 18, "if you don't talk, who will marry you".
He went on holiday in 2010, which he visited my house and told me in "I've got you a wife from India" in a sterile, disrespectful way,
At my other uncle's house, he said, can you eat this as in to mock my cultural skills.
When my younger sister passed her second year and I was in my first year, they looked at me hoping I would get jealous:
This is the absolute worst that has happened to me:
I was at my uncle's house in 2011, he was sitting their on the sofa adjacent to me, he suddenly said "can you cook" I said "yes". Then my uncle and everyone was talking about going to the pub and he was saying he's not going to take me. Then suddenly he said to my dad "are you worried your son's not going to get a wife"..........my dad said he will. There was some more chatter and my dad said I am a man now and with he's fingers pointing, he said "look at him, he's not a man"...........WTF. Then we went home, my main uncle wasn't in the sitting room at that time. He never bothered to phone to apologise or nothing.
I remember I was upstairs when he came to my house, when I came down, he called me a "scardy cat" in my language or where is that "scardy cat".
I remember when I was looking for work, he started smirking and told my father to get me a job in the factory.
At a 2014 christmas party at my uncle's house, we was looking at her daughters engagement video and their was a still image of a nice looking girl and he told me why don't you go for her. So he was picking on me in front of others.
When he and his wife came back from India for her daughters wedding in January 2015, he got my father and my sister a present, I noticed they did not get me anything.
He came to visit my house over Christmas 2015 and he said do you have a girlfriend, I said no which he went onto say can't you get one, I said I'm not looking for one.
Back in 2012 he said you do you have a girlfriend and he said why don't you go out on holidays, I was going to say I've been busy with my work, however, his wife went onto blurt, he's got no friends.
3) My aunty from my local area said things like I'm fat(I'm not fat), I'm too scared, when I went to her house recently she said "what can I cook". She even complains I only come to visit her sons to mess about.
4) Her youngest son said when I was younger "I thought you was thick" he ignores me and acknowledges everyone of my cousins and he has been rude.
5) My aunty who is the wife of the husband who leaves 3 hours away cut me out on the camera at a christmas party a couple of years ago and told my cousin to go towards her right so she can block me and she has been a bit mean and arrogant eavesdropping in my convo's. She even said when I was young my sister colour betters than me.
My dad was mean to me too, he told me not to go out, not to make friends when I'm a teenager, because I'm going to get married anyway. Also he did pick on me when I was at university and put on the spot a couple of times saying "take my sister" to holidays and there is only "my sister". I also remember him when we moved house he shouted at me for no reason.
