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Post by bigbadbeef on Jun 19, 2015 20:42:19 GMT
One could say I am a unique individual. Not to bore you with details, but suffice it to say, I long for an individual with a mind like my own, a counterpart, but are none to be found. If I were to search for a partner in the normal places people would search, then I would be missing the point since I would looking in a place where that desired partner does not like to tread.
My question is: Am I stuck to finding a person who has succumbed to her social indoctrination, trapped in a life of mediocrity or is there a way to look for someone who at least has a sliver of understand of the world the same way as I do?
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Post by gruntal on Jun 19, 2015 23:40:30 GMT
At some level your projected partner would be expected to have the same dilemma as you do i.e. no place to go or no place to look that is appropriate. So if I didn't know better I would say it is hopeless.
At another level people - especially those of a more spiritual state - must realize things are not static. If you are in a state of change then it would just be your lot to be alone until you safely landed. It won't last forever. But that is the price for being a seeker. But look at it this way: if you just find you are gravitating towards unconventional ways and things then go for it! The people you know now probably won't understand this but you will be lead to groups and persons eventually that resonate. I do not know of any way to plan this. It just happens over time.
When you know it is now WHAT you are then you will be lead to things and partners ...
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Post by baangus on Jun 22, 2015 14:06:05 GMT
Hi bbb. We're all unique individuals. What is "a life of mediocrity," what is it that defines "social indoctrination," and who judges what all that is exactly?
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Post by bigbadbeef on Jun 22, 2015 15:41:10 GMT
Society does. Non-conformism is simply vocal and gestural disagreement of established societal norms.
- So here's an example:
Belching is considered a complement to the cook or the host in Arabic nations while it is a despicable form of social interaction everywhere else.
- And here's an anecdote:
Every January I walk up to my mother and say: "Don't you dare buy any present this year no matter how holy is the holiday! As for my side of the bargain, here is a big-ass clothing store gift card which should cover you for the whole year!"
And I'm not the only one with cultural issues, you can take it also from George Carlin:
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Post by baangus on Jun 22, 2015 17:17:28 GMT
What does society do? Is it society that see others' lives as mediocre? Does society spend time concerning itself with ideas such as social indoctrination? I see a world of unique individuals. Nothing about any of it is mediocre; all of it is miraculous. And every soul is doing the best they can. My role as I see it is to be a positive social presence in the world, and especially for those who might be struggling with social difficulties and energies. For example, when I sit down to eat at a restaurant, I make sure I look into the eyes of the person waiting on my table, and smile and let them know how much I appreciate their service. That's what I think of when I hear words like life, social interaction and society. |
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Post by bigbadbeef on Jun 23, 2015 7:04:41 GMT
So then my quest for a counterpart is a fool's errand?
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Post by baangus on Jun 23, 2015 10:57:28 GMT
So then my quest for a counterpart is a fool's errand? Is that what you took from gruntal's and my comments? Redirect your intention, and turn your quest into a quest for self-understanding. Examine your beliefs and attitudes; learn to recognize how they impact your life in both a positive and negative sense. That would be my advice, if that's in fact what you're asking here. "Think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course." |
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Post by bigbadbeef on Jun 25, 2015 7:28:20 GMT
While I grant you that my knowledge of myself is not ideal, I do know myself enough to know what I want and who would I want to spend my life with.
And a part of which is that I can't just go and nab somebody that would be interested, in a disco or similar venue. Did that, it was a disaster for me, the partner, even my dog didn't come out of that unscathed!
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Post by baangus on Jun 25, 2015 8:59:39 GMT
And a part of which is that I can't just go and nab somebody that would be interested, in a disco or similar venue. Did that, it was a disaster for me, the partner, even my dog didn't come out of that unscathed! Ha ha, that I can relate to. We all go through unhappy situations; they help us clarify what we want by virtue of experiencing what we don't want. My only reply would be to soften your view of the world, nurture your understanding of others and see them as unique individuals like yourself. If you come across someone living what you term a mediocre life, don't judge. Be kind, maybe they're just looking for a bit of direction. Essential fact of life: The love you take is equal to the love you make. |
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