Why we Shout whenever we are in Anger!!

[samy03]

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family
members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his
disciples smiled and asked.



'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'



Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we
shout.'



'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can
as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint



Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained, .



'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover
that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they
are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that
great distance.



What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but
talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is
either nonexistent or very small...'



The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They
do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their
love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and
that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'



He looked at his disciples and said.



'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that
distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so
great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce
courts, for instance.'

[sparklekaz]

Hi Samy,

What a really beautiful story. And how true it is. I really hadn't thought of it in quite that way before. Previously, when I had thought about why people shout at each other when they are angry. I simply assumed it was to 'be heard'. Feeling the need to raise their voice because they are not being listened to. But we cannot force someone else to listen to us if they are not receptive or care about what we have to say, can we?

When people shout at each other, they are not listening to each other. Each is too intent on getting their own point across, that communication does not happen. There is a quote that I like which goes something like. "You are shouting so loudly, that I cannot hear what you are trying to say". I can't remember who said it, but I thought it very profound. I really loved the analogy of your story. When two people are seriously intune with each other, words are superfluous, arn't they.

Thank you so much for sharing this story Samy.

Love and light
Kaz