Should life feel like a fight?

[clara927]

I've been feeling recently that almost everything I do or think of is like Im in fight. I've been feeling very hyper lately, even in my speech. I feel like Im in a sense attacking something. Its an uncomfortable feeling for me. Should I just let things flow? Is that really a good idea or is that an excuse for laziness? It seems like when we read about and are told about "success stories" everything is a constant struggle and it may be that way from the point of view of the observer. Effort is always necessary to undertake something, but when is it too much effort? or maybe the wrong type of effort?

[subsidinginsanity]

A man is sleeping and dreams that he is a soldier. He goes into battle, fights bravely, then is fatally wounded. Sadly he dreams of his approaching death, perhaps thinking of the dear ones he must leave behind.

Suddenly he wakes up. In joyful relief he cries, 'Ah! I am not a soldier, and I am not dying! It was only a dream.' And he laughs to find himself alive and well.

But what of the soldier who actually fights in this earth-life, and is wounded and killed? Suddenly, in the astral world, he wakes up to find that it was all a dream; that in that other world he has no physical body, no flesh to be wounded, no bones to be broken.

Don't you see? All the experiences of this world are like that. They are dream experiences.

Paramhansa Yogananda

This world seems real and our lives seem difficult because we take it all so seriously. The ego loves conflict and strife. What better way to bolster it? In my own life I've fought against all kinds of things. Mostly I've lost and suffered for it. I've spent years going to school to achieve a job that aside from the money I realized I didn't want.

Life is full of blows. Hardly anybody has it easy, and if they do things change. This all comes from our devotion to ego. Ego loves to complicate and confuse. It loves to pit itself against itself. That way it always wins. What you resist persists. The ego is no exception.

I don't know what you are facing. I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but generally I've found that loving the ego helps me more than fighting it. That doesn't mean that I never fight it, just that I pick my battles if you know what I mean. One of my favorite poems of all time is

Row, row, row your boat
gently down the stream.

Merily, merily, merily, merily
life is but a dream.

Think about how these simple words might apply to your life. Know that no matter what happens Spirit always loves you and is waiting for you.

[gruntal]

I have often thought that the validity of an an argument was inversely proportional to the extent it is argued. So I stopped arguing. My friends told me to toot my own horn or starve. I went into a corner and sulked and lived on potato chips.

If there was anything that kept me going it was because after all was said and done so much did come back to me with some measure of contriteness. "Gee it was harder then I thought" or "I never dreamed it would turn out like that". "What happened?" My perennial retort was: "you tell me what happened!".

As always the libertarian I tend to think life is or should be a partnership with equal benefits to both parties. I should not have to shout, grovel, or bluster. At some level things go un-noticed, un-used, or neglected even when they are available and sorely needed. The only thing obvious was that there was no obvious way to achieve. Except to fight like a badger and who wants to live like that? So it never happened.

If it is any consolation the warrior will come knocking on your door sweetly and politely when all else fails. Even as the door mouse will realize there was nothing ever stopping him from success but his own timidity. Everything in between we can just chalk up to a learning experience.

Plus getting mad is hard on your heart muscle and I am down to about 70% as my normal so I can't afford to push it or I croak and then who's going to feed my pooche?

[sparklekaz]

Dear Clara,

It has been my own experience that when I see everything in life as a struggle, that in truth it is myself I am struggling with. What I see outside of me is simply a reflection of my own inner turmoil and conflict.

I know this might seem simplistic. But truly, if you read back to yourself, why you feel that life is a struggle. You will see it is because of the way in which you are thinking. You are a intelligent girl, and it is only natural that we intellectualize a lot of our life experiences. We try to work our way through things, but this is very much coloured by our own perceptions.

I would say to you, and I say this lovingly. Stop living so much inside your own head. It is good to detach and observe. But you are not doing this really, you are emotionally very attached to your thoughts and I think they get you worked up inside. Try to simply flow with life. Try not to make assumptions about what others are thinking or feeling and try not to project your own thoughts onto others.

In other ways life can be challenging Clara. We have all been there I can assure you. Trying to live a happy life and work can be hard. You will find your niche, what you love doing. Just be open to the opportunities that come your way and try not to worry so much.

If you keep seeing everything in life as a problem or over thinking about what might go wrong or what might happen. You will never do anything! So try letting go a bit and just take things as they come, deal with things if they prove problematic, as and when they happen. You never know, those problems might never happen!!

Love and light
Kaz

[Smeets]

I think of these things too. I often wonder if life is a terrible game. Someone makes a move then I have to make a move. When does it stop?

[Ishtahota]

We are in duality consciousness and because of this things are harder for us. If we do not go after our spiritual growth up front we have no choice but to fall under the rules of duality consciousness. When we do not grow we have to enter drama and conflict with others around us so that we can learn and grow the hard way. The higher-self is the judge and the subconscious is the enforcer of the judgements. The judgements are in no way punishments, they are only the results of our choices. When you can truely learn to love the AFGE = (another friggen growth experience), then you will start to grow and things will get a lot better, and easier.
Duality consciousness is the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

[subsidinginsanity]

Sept 13, 2012 15:40:20 GMT Ishtahota said:

We are in duality consciousness ...

I like your AFGE acronym. I've got one to. JAFO = Just another forgiveness opportunity.

Sept 13, 2012 15:40:20 GMT Ishtahota said:

... subconscious is the enforcer of the judgements.

Yea, if projection makes perception then this is true.

[soul33]

we have tradition story about alxander the great.
after Slaughtering most of civilian here in israel he sudnly noticed cabala expert walking in the field. alaxander ran to him and bowed.the man told him you great conquer u conquer most of the world but the bigest war u havn't won yet and thise war is conquring yourself.