Why don't I have any friends?

[Smeets]

I love people soooo much. I have a lot to give to people. But I feel like God is keeping me away from people. Does he do this? Why does he keep me out of the loop?

[jesusrose]

Smeets my friend,

Let's refocus your thoughts shall we?

Imagine yourself surrounded by loving people who reciprocate the love and kindness that you show them. We bring unto ourselves what we experience simply with the power of thought. We have a tendency to think of our situations negatively therefore we attract more of it. If you continue to think that you are 'out of the loop' you will continue to feel that way. However, if you imagine yourself 'in it' and see and feel what that would be like you will experience it.

We do have the ability to manifest Smeets my friend xxxx

Rose

[subsidinginsanity]

Projection makes perception. I sometimes consider myself blessed to not have to be around many people much, but Spiritually I would probably make better progress if I was. You might try getting involved with the community. Check out the local recreation center.

[gruntal]

I don't like people at all. I had nothing they wanted except to be a punching bag. They threw things at me and wouldn't leave me alone. Lately I started to throw things back but I am old and my aim isn't very good. Oddly that only makes it get better. Much better. Maybe it is the thought that counts.

Plus I have tried to do people trade-ins with upgrades just to spite the old crowd. The newer versions are rather spiffy! Maybe the rest were just Beta versions and were recalled to the factory.

As old as I am I only have a few decades to go until the end but now ironically I think I have a reason to stay. There might be a lesson to learn there and if you could learn it while your young think of all the extra years of happiness you could enjoy. Just don't confuse the loop for the rat race and you will do fine.

[Smeets]

thanks guys.

I could try getting involved in my community. I know a comic book class in town. trouble is i have no money. i'm a starving artist. lately i don't even draw anymore.

i'm going to start visualizing friends... i'll let you know how it works.

people can be so cruel. i'm sorry they throw stuff at you. they did that to me too. i'm starting to accept it. when we get old we tend not to care anymore.

[soul33]

smart olders who past away bles thire memory warned us to buy one friend and to make one teacher. the one friend should be bought by money or other matrial and you should pick up someone that u would eat with him and learn with him and he will be your companioun friend.
they say it hard to find this one friend but who find it realy blesed.

[soul33]

i went and pay someone and i live with him for few years and this time i was the most happy and i learn alot.

[artica]

I felt the exact thing you did. I had no friends. No matter how hard I tried to, there's no one. My sister always advise me, being alone is good. It brings you closer to God and appreciate silence. I wish I can do it. But I still hope I would have a friend who can guide me and be my soul companion.

[Smeets]

Maybe I shouldn't be so picky... Is that the secret?

I know a couple of people but I wouldn't call them friends because they have no morals or are obtuse and gregarious.

[clara927]

Hello Smeets,

I've felt the way you feel for most of my life. I always thought that I was so awkward and not "cool" enough to have friends. Although I know I am different, Im not that much more awkward than anyone else. Most people work very hard at trying to be normal. Also, often times, when we think that no one is going to like us we project that and people respond accordingly. I find if we do the things that we like to the point that we are confident in our personalities and abilities, people will gravitate towards us. The main thing Im finding is not so much trying to please people, but rather developing myself to a point where I know who I am and am confident. I think you have to trust yourself to a certain extent. Im learning that. I hope this helps in some way.

[cyberangel]

FRIENDSHIP

A gentle word
A kindly face
A soft smile
A warm embrace

These are gifts
To those who need
These are gifts
Of a friend indeed

But a friend is more
Than these alone
A friend is forever
Not just on loan

So my wish for you is
Happiness never to end
For i know in you
I have a friend

You’re a friend who i know
Will always be there
To listen to talk to and
To show that you care

And i know you’ll always
Be there ‘til the end
But i hope you will always
Have room for one more friend

By Lotty (c) 1998


Dear Smeets,

I wrote this poem a few years ago for a friend who was a big part of my life at that point in time, we have moved on now, each have gone our own ways and are on our own personal journeys. I have been blessed with lots of friends throughout the years but that was not always the case. I was extremely bullied as a child in school and yes I also have a poem about that too LOL...but seriously, I think friends come and go as we grow and develop ourselves. Everyone who has come into my life has taught me something and I am grateful, both for the good and for the bad.

Friendship is important not just social but also spiritually. And what I have learned to date is that one should never settle for anything less than a true friend. It can be hard to reach out when we have been hurt and even harder to get back up when we have been knocked down, but be yourself and above all be true to your beliefs and principles and you will attract those who hold the same values as you. Never be ashamed of who you are or what you have achieved either. Friendship comes in many guises and it’s not always what we expect either but often far more if we are just open to it.

Be yourself and your true friends will find you and even better will like you for being you. It’s hard to go through life feeling like you’re alone but I promise you are not, even when you think you are. You make a difference to this world smeets, and you probably don’t even realise it but it’s true. Your words and your art reach out and touch people’s hearts and souls. I am glad to call you my friend and I hope to be one of the many friends you will have. Thank you for being you and you have made my heart sing on more than one occasion with what you have posted here in the forum.

Love and Light
Your friend,
Lorraine

[Smeets]

Yes, you guys are right! The other day I actually walked up to some people at starbucks and made friends

The key was that I was confident, like you guys say. I believed in myself, albiet in a very weird way, but it worked.

Thank you for your help and guidance on this guys.