Resentment

[mccoist]

Helllo reader i am writing this concerning resentment
Resentment reared its head in my thoughts after the passing away of an uncle of mine.The family dictum then kicked in and i am finding it very difficult to deal with the various thoughts and resentful feeelings which have come up in me
As with all families there is a certain pack order.In my family we have one particulary one very greedy agressive unthrustworthy individual,
I am just tired of this behaviour and took a stand and made my feelings clear on her behaviour.
This on the face of it seems all well and good,but now i seem to be in overdrive, I long to distance myself from her and her ways. It is annoying me how I constantly bring her in to my thoughts and conversations. oother people who also dislike her seem to be fueling the flame also.
I have asked them not to discuss he or anything about her.
The crux of this is my feelings my resentfullness and how deep angry and how much of my time it is in my life ,this is even feedind the flames of resentment.
Maybe time will heal this and allow me to let my thoughts relax
Maybe some one has experience and can offer advise
Maybe there is a meditation exercise which helps people deal with this issue

I would well come a discussion or an exchange of views

I realise this is a common complaint among people so i am not looking for their story but rather how they resolved their issues on resentfullness

[brummyben]

I have used the word resentful many, many times but have never sat back and thought about what it actually means. I guess that is part of the power of the human language that it takes away the need for thought.
Anyway, I am sitting here now thinking that being resentful is feeling an anger to someone for something that they have, have done or are doing. It would also mean I was holding something back now as I feel it would be punishing the person who I was being resentful with.

A possible meditation regarding your friend, would be to look upon her as teacher... someone who you are able to learn off. We do not learn as much off people or things when everything is going wonderful, the true lessons come off people who we do not understand so well. Why is it that you let this person get under your skin so much? Perhaps seeing her as a lesson to overcome your resentfulness may make the resentfulness in itself subside. I think what I am trying to say is that if you were completely at one with buddha nature, no matter what she did she would be unable to affect your emotions the way she does. I would try not to avoid her or conversations about her, but rather examine what happens to you when you encounter conversations about her. Also look at her and realise that she is not what she says nor is she what she does. She ia juat a being who maybe has more lessons to learn than what you have or is just in a different cycle to you.

Although it is hard to feel at times like this, the peace is within you, you have just got to find it.