Please Help Me With A Dilema

[unitedkingdom97]

Please help I do not know where to turn. I need spiritual help and guidance. I am a happily married man and father but every couple of weeks I become addicted to adult chat lines. This lasts for approx 15min and after it I hate myself and hate myself for the days that follow. I do not know where to turn. I have prayed and prayed for help for guidance for strength and forgiveness, but I always cave in please please help please give me some advice this is slowly eating away inside of me and killing me please. Sorry again I stumbled across the site when looking for bible passages.

[Leon]

Hi friend welcome to the group. Firstly you must not beat yourself up too much, do not see it as a sin, but more of a call for help. Your need for help has manifested in the need to use adult chat lines. If you was not suffering inside, you would of not have turned to this form of release.

The question is, do you really want to resolve what is missing in yourself, or the relationship that you have. Do you want to find an answer, or do you want to keep going it alone, finding ways to mask the problem.

There is no need to tell your wife what you have been doing, but you do need to have an heart to heart with her, because more than likely something has happened recently to upset the applecart. Something has unsettled you that has pushed you to find some sort of release elsewhere.

You must seek to find the root of the problem, the chat lines is just the surface. Deep down you have a need that wants to be listened to. You do not have to test out every fantasy that enters your mind, but you do need to understand yourself and why you do things such as this. It is not a sin, but you are hurting yourself like it is a sin. It is a perpetual cycle that will not end, unless you start to understand yourself better.

You feed this negative urge by even making it look like a sin, if something takes the form of a taboo in your mind it is very hard to stop, because you feel like you have already broken all the rules, so it does not matter now, if you keep doing it.

Stop feeding the thought with all this negativity. It is a messenger, nothing else, leave it alone and listen to the message, the message is telling you to rectify the area of your life where you feel unhappy.

You should put all your energy into that, be positive put all your light and all your power into resolving the problem. Please do not continue to mask it by doing what in reality is hurting you. Confront the problem, listen to the message. Trust that God will now show you the true path towards happiness, this was just a detour to show you where you was going wrong.

[Ishtahota]

Sin and guilt sucks. Sex is one of the most powerful draws that we have on us. Our genetics and DNA, our hormones, and believe it or not our spirit has us being attracted to others. To see the truth you have to change how you think. In each person is a left and a right brain, you can also say that in each person is the male and the female, or even the conscious and the sub-conscious. We as human beings are in duality consciousness, and when this happens to us there is part of us that goes to sleep. The physical body, our DNA, and our ginetics has us looking at our opposite for the sake of procreation. And our spirit has us looking at our opposite in an attempt to show us what we need to awaken in ourselves so that we can become whole again and leave our duality consciousness behind.
Now our ego also plays a part in all of this. If there is doing wrong and we feel guilty it is not for what we think it is. If our ego can get us lusting for someone we will not see our reflection the other person and reawaken. This allows our ego to stay in control of our lives. The real attraction goes like this, what is asleep in me is awake in them and what is awake in me is asleep in them. That is why opposites attract. The ego says here take this person and they will make you feel better and somewhat whole, but this is a subversion of the truth, this is the truth of lust.
It is OK to look at a nude body for the sake of beauty, and it is OK for two people to share themselves with each other. But it is not OK to let the ego run amuck and keep us from reawakening and meeting back at God house so to speak.
We also want expanded consciousness and higher awareness, and the ego gives us drugs. Drugs and plants are a temporary shortcut, but they are not what is real for us. If you do not see the truth about what your ego is doing the sin and guilt can become a trap.