Another weird dream...

[DeeUSA]

Hello,

I'm posting dreams because I really think my innerself is trying to help my outer self get out of my current situation. I could be wrong, but for some reason I'm having extremely vivid dreams. I recently started back dreaming. The last few months before my husband moved out I wasn't dreaming (or at least that what it felt like). Then after he moved out...maybe about a month after he left I started having a lot of memorable dreams.

I had this one on this past Friday (2/3/12). It was interesting that I immediately wrote it down.

So here goes...

It was a group of us trying to help my friend Shellon (we've been friends since 5th grade) succeed with some type of business or event. It felt like entertainment or politics. In the dream Shellon had shouldered length hair that was curled and combed to the side. I remember in the dream I noticed her hair because all of our lives Shellon has had very short tapered hair cuts with very little curl in it.

We were all at some large gathering place getting it ready for her some type of event she was having. I remember getting into a long car that I believe was red and it resembled an old boxy stationwagon. The road was wide (at least 4 lanes) it curved and it had hills in it. Some of the hills were high but I wasn't scared driving over them (in past dreams I've been scared of hills and curves on roads while driving).

So while we were getting ready Shellon left to o do something else. While I was at the place helping out a kid maybe a teenager that I knew through an older man, maybe his dad. The kid didn't like me and I knew it. However we had all of this work to do together. After Shellon left someone, I think the kid's dad, came over and for some reason (I can't remember what reason)he needed us to go back to a house. I said I was going to go to see. He said it was really nothing there anymore, I'd go anyway. I get in the car with the kid who doesn't like me. I remember getting off an offramp that was at least 2 lanes wide (both going the same way) or something to similiar to a big offramp. It was daylight but I remember seeing the headlights of other cars once we were driving on the street.

We get to the house and the house isn't empty! Some people were suppose to come move everything but they didn't. Now my sister (we were estranged for 2 years and just started communicating a few months ago)is with us and there black plastic garbage bags are filled with me and my sister's belongings. I remember seeing her actual real life swimsuit in one bag and mine in another bag.

Then the guy turns into my husband but our attitude towards each other is different. Anyway he said he thought this stuff was gone. And I said well good thing I came back to see. So the kid is hanging around and I hear the guy whisper something like you can go if you want. The kid (now maybe 16 to 21) said no he wants to stay. The guy says I thought you didn't like her (I'm acting like I can't hear them but I can) and the kid implies somehow now that's not the case. So I tell the kid lets do something (I can't remember what it was) and the kid actually leads the way.

Also while talking to my "husband" he started offering me other items in the house. I remember his telling me there's either a 21 or 27 inch tv in the basement that you can have. I declined, I told him it was too heavy. He said he'd go and get it and bring it up. He said it could go in the bedroom (in real life he took the tv from the bedroom when he left and I didn't get a new one) I told him I was ok with not having a tv in the bedroom. Then I asked if it worked and he said yes they're just going to throw it away. I told him someone will get it.

The other thing is that the house that was supposed to be empty was filled with a lot of stuff that I recognized from real life. It was supposed to empty but it was literally cluttered with stuff.

Ok, I know that was pretty long but because I woke up and immediately starting writing it down I had a lot of boring details to include. If someone can give some insight into this dream I would really appreciate it.

Thanks so much!!! Blessings

Dee

[sparklekaz]

Hello Dee,

In your dream you were part of a group. The group of people are all aspects of YOU the dreamer. So different facets of your personality, psyche and spiritual aspects. The group is focused on a business event. So this is about all aspects of you coming together to focus on a project or idea that is new for you. This could be a practical issue, such as looking for a new job or something to do with changing your outlook on life. Working towards changing your perspective or how you deal with life issues in a different way.

In dream symbology a car or vehicle represents our personal energy. Energy available to you at this present time. The car is large, so that indicates a good energy source. You say it is boxed shape. This might indicate that you are boxed in or limited in your way of thinking. So the idea here I would say is learn to 'look outside of the box' metaphorically speaking. Start viewing things in a different way. The old way of thinking has not been helpful to you, so a change in this could be a positive step.

The road ahead is a four lane one. A road in dream symbology, represents the highway of life. Multiple lanes would indicate, ahead of you are multiple choices. Or you are looking at different options in your future. The road is curved, which indicates detours and distractions that might take you off your route in life. So be aware of this. The hills, represent obstacles that you will meet along the road of life. That you will have to deal with. Maybe the bends in the road, will take you past them! Often the temptation in life is to avoid difficulties. Whilst it may move you forward unimpeded, these obstructions or difficulties may be be an important part of your personal growth.

Working through them and overcoming them, 'climbing' those hills could make you stronger. So think carefully, about avoiding something that needs to be dealt with, simply for an easy life! Though the fact that in the dream you were not scared by them or deterred, indicates, that you do have the ability within you to deal with what life throws in your path, so that is a positive sign.

The interaction between yourself and the kid and older man, is all about you interacting with your youthful side and your older wiser aspect of self. The work to be done, is work on your self. Bringing together the qualities of youth, which is optimism and energy for new things in life. A childlike innocence and playfulness. With the older wiser self, who has learned valuable life lessons. Take from these aspects of self the positive qualities that will help you move forward and deal with life better as it is now.

The house in the dream symbolises you the dreamer. Going back to it, expecting it to be empty but it wasn't. There was bags of rubbish to remove. This symbolically is referring to your emotional baggage. Things that you need to cleanse yourself of, get rid of to be able to move forward. You the dreamer, know which area's of your life, this might refer to.

Your sister was in this part of the dream. You say that in life, you had not spoken to for a long time. Working on your relationship with your sister, may be part of the working through any emotional issues from the past and resolving things. As is indicated by the fact, that some of her belongings are in the rubbish bags. So again this is showing you, that there is work here for both of you to do. But the fact that she was there in 'your' house, shows that this is important for you.

Your husband appears in your dream, in your house. Again, this reflects that he is an important part of the clearing out process and resolving emotional issues. You discuss stuff.. this stuff is the area you need to focus on. The theme of this part of the dream is about getting rid of things you don't need. The clutter in the house, represents your emotional attachments and the area's in your life you need to look at and work on.

Once you have decluttered your house, cleaned it, you will be bringing positive new energy into your life. Letting go of anything that is holding you back, be it attachments to people who are not good for you, ingrained negative modes of behaviour and thinking.

A long dream Dee, and full of symbolism. I hope I have shed a little light on it for you. There is a lot to think about. This is only my interpretation of your dream. Please only take from it that which is meaningful to you and simply leave the rest.

Love and light
Kaz

[DeeUSA]

Kaz, I THANK GOD FOR YOU!!! :-) My interpretation of my dream was SO different. I know my interpretation is different because I don't know what things represent. I HAD NO IDEA that the young and old people represented parts of me.

Everything you wrote in post was so true...even the part about my sister. My only question however is the comment about thinking outside of the box. I've been told over and over that that's the key to my success (not only financially either) in life. But I don't understand. I continue to think that I'm thinking outside of the box but once again I'm now giving myself the message that I need to think outside of the box. I'm so confused.

With regards to getting rid of the negative people (probably my husband) in my life...thats true and I know I need to do that, but I'm scared to do it. It must be bothering me. Its ironic that I have this dream not knowing what it meant, but I've been conversating with Tina and Silvia about their post regarding the inner child! This is why you're a Godsend, Kaz! I've been really intrigued about finding out more about it and had no idea that my psyche has been pushing me to explore it.

Thanks so much and God Bless you
Dee

[sparklekaz]

Hello Dee,

I am so glad that you were able to take so much from the interpretation.

Thinking outside of the box is very much about seeing something from a new angle or perspective for me. But I think before we can do that, we have to start being really honest with ourselves. Often we only see things the way we want to see them. Which isn't always an accurate viewpoint. Often we are so wrapped up in our own feelings, we don't take into account the feelings and viewpoints of others who are connected to us. Simply by trying to do that can create a shift in perspective.

Another way of seeing ourselves as being boxed in, is by understanding that other things can block us off. Fear, anxiety can also do this. We are fearful of doing something new, or we would rather stick with old habits of behaviour and unhealthy life style choices, because its what we are used to. Being boxed in can also be in the sense that we have said things, that we feel we can't take back. Our pride, for instance can box us in. What does a sense of being boxed in feel like to you? Its your dream, so this is about how you are manifesting your hopes, fears and desires.

Yes, Silvia's post on the psyche and healing the inner child has been invaluable Dee. I think many have gotten a lot out of reading it. The inner child plays a very important part in the healthy integration of the psyche.

I hope this helps..

Love and light
Kaz

[DeeUSA]

Thanks Kaz, I've read your interpretations over and over trying to get some insight. Your gift of dream intrepretation is INVALUABLE!! I don't know if you heard of a lady (deceased now) by the name of Helen Keller. She was a deaf/mute and had so much to say to the people around her but no one could understand what she was trying to communicate. Well your dream interpretation is the same thing. It's like my inner psyche is trying to communicate with me but I can't understand. And you're the bridge! I feel like my inner psyche is so happy that there is someone to bridge the gap that its like SCREAMMING out information to me because now I can understand what its trying to tell me.

I'm still trying to figure out this outside of the box thing since it seems to keep coming up with me. The explanations you gave me helped me understand it a bit more, but I'm still not grasping it all the way. I understand that maybe my lifestyle is boxing me in, maybe holding on to my husband despite how he feels is boxing me in as well, or maybe my pride because I don't want friends to know that me and my husband are seperated. Because then they would be right and I was wrong. You asked what does feeling boxed in feel like to me...I'm still trying to figure that out. I don't know. I want to find out, but I just don't know. Maybe because I've always lived a boxed in life and that's what I'm used to so I don't know that I'm feeling that. If that makes sense. lol

Kaz thank you so much and I pray many blessings on your life for the work you do for us. Please know that you've made a difference in my quality of life and I pray I don't overwhelm you with my dreams. They are coming fast and furiously now...I think it's because now my inner self knows it can communicate with me.

Blessings,
Dee

[sparklekaz]

Dear Dee,

Thank you so much for your kind words.

Dream symbolism is a wonderful way of working with the psyche. The dream symbols are really only signposts, little clues that your unconscious mind is trying to give you. Some are glaringly obvious, and others are more subtle. Of course, so much of our dream scape is about day to day reality. Our fears and insecurities, desires for the future and goals to work towards, are intermingled with this. As well as small whispers from our higher or wiser selves.

You said something very telling in your post, when you say "holding on to my husband, despite how he feels, is me boxing myself in". Think about that sentence. Be totally honest, ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, what would you want your husband to do for you? Are you really listening to him?

The second sentence that also jumps out to me is " I don't want my friends to know that me and my husband are separated". Again, be totally honest with yourself and ask yourself, is this a genuine reason to hold on to your relationship? Is it your pride that is hurt, more then your heart? Deep down, you know the answers to these questions.

Dealing with change is very hard, especially if it is a change that has been 'forced' upon us. Being boxed in, might be showing you, that refusing to accept this change and go with it, is a big part of the problem. So think about, pray or meditate on 'Acceptance'.

Love and light
Kaz

[DeeUSA]

Hi Kaz, thanks so much for responding. I totally hear what you are suggesting and I'm in the process of trying to digest what you suggested. I've never been a quitter and in my mind accepting "change" is a way of quitting and not fighting for what you want. Am I wrong? Why can't I decipher the difference? That could be my biggest problem. When I'm told to accept what's happening to me and go with me...I hear "just lay down and die and accept what's going to happen." So maybe that's why I'm having such a hard time with accepting this. Yes, pride probably has some to do with it. But I've always had to fight for everything I wanted and was important to me all my life and in my mind this is just one more thing I need to fight for. But maybe my pysche is trying to tell me this isn't something I shouldn't fight for? See I'm still confused!

Blessings to you Kaz

Dee

[sparklekaz]

Hi Dee,

I hear what you are saying totally. But this is not about you quitting Dee. You have not given up on your marriage. What I am saying is, that some things are outside of our control. You cannot control how your husband thinks or feels. This is about him, not about you. Though obviously you are affected by his decision to end the marriage.

Acceptance, in this instance, is more to do with accepting that for whatever reason, your husband has decided that he does not want to be in this relationship. We cannot 'make' people do something they do not want to do. Even if we can think of a million and one reasons, why they should. We cannot force something. To force something you will only keep meeting resistance. In the end making you feel even more unhappy then you do now, hard though that may be to believe.

What you see as quitting or giving up, I see as surrendering to the situation. Accepting your husbands decision to live apart. Offer up this situation to God, and trust that in time things will resolve themselves. It may be that you and your husband will come back together again, and if you do, would you rather it be because he came to you, having worked through any uncertainties he had about the relationship or himself, realising that what he wants more then anything is for the two of you to make a go of things. Or, to come back through a sense of guilt of responsibility? Which situation, do you honestly feel, will create the right and the best environment for the two of you to move forward and make a success of your relationship?

There is an old saying Dee, and I am a true believer in this. Sometimes, we have to let the ones we love go, and if they are meant for us, they will return to us. If they do not, then it was not meant to be. No one could try harder then you have Dee, you have nothing to reproach yourself for. So let go, and let God.

Love and light
Kaz

[DeeUSA]

Kaz, you are totally right. I've been thinking about that a lot lately. Like would I want him to come back to me out a sense of guilt or responsibility and the answer was no. So then I thought why would I keep trying right now because it would only be from the result of me convincing him we belong together. Youre also right about letting the ones we love go. I guess I'm scared he won't come back. But if he doesn't come back, then I guess I'm better off. And you're right its not about me, but that's hard for me to digest. Growing up nothing was about me so now I make everything about me. It may sound selfish, but I look at it moreso as self preservation. And that's why I'm a "bit" :-) of a control freak...and this is a situation that I can't control. Its hard to deal with that. I feel totally helpless and I don't like it...but I know now that I need to "let go and let God."

Thanks so much Kaz,

Many blessings to you!
Dee