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Post by lostsoul on Jan 8, 2012 16:48:58 GMT
I am struggling with an issue in my life that I can't move away from. Why does God give us feelings of things that will happen in our lives? Is it to prepare us for the event or is it to help us prevent it? For about 3 weeks I had a feeling that something horrible was about to happen. I was sick to my stomach and I had an urgent panic feeling. I told my close friends and boyfriend about the feeling. About 3 days before this event happened, my best friend told me about a dream she'd had. It was almost exactly the same as the event. I feel in my heart I was given these signs to prevent its occurance and I failed miserably. I can't find any scriptures that covers this issue. My life will never be the same and I can't see any happiness for me. Maybe that is a form of punishment for not paying attention. Anyway, if anyone out there can help me find some answers I'd really be grateful. Thank you.
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sparklekaz
Someone asked me.. What is your religion? I said, "All the paths that lead to the light".
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Post by sparklekaz on Jan 8, 2012 17:16:23 GMT
Dear lostsoul,
You are not alone in this situation. I have spoken to many people over time who have had precognitive or prophetic dreams. Like you, they have wondered why they were given these kinds of dreams. What was the purpose, and like you have felt that it was for a reason. That reason being to be able to prevent or do something to have been able to stop what they saw occurring. This kind of thinking, puts a awful lot of responsibility upon the person one which is not a burden you should bear.
I have come to believe, that there is no responsibility upon us to prevent the future unfolding. It is simply that people do occasionally experience moments of intuitive awareness. Even those who may never have had this experience before. When we are dreaming, even people who are not normally intuitive or psychic, are extremely open. The conscious mind recedes, and the unconscious mind takes control. In this state, we process the events of the day. Not just the main events, or current worries and anxieties. But the subtle nuances of behaviour of others around us, things we are not conscious of while awake. We assimilate in sleep.
I don't know what the event was that occurred that has upset you so much. But often, people sense an atmosphere around people who are not behaving as they normally do. Even as I have said, if it is so slight, that in normal every day life you don't notice anything is particularly wrong. On some level, you do. This is what causes people to feel uncomfortable and uneasy as if something is not quite right, but they can't quite put their finger on what it is. The fact that your friend had also picked up on something too and dreamt about it, shows there was something going on, within your circle of friends or life at the time. So in that sense it should be a comfort to you to know that you were not the only one who 'felt' there was something wrong.
The future is not written in stone. Things can change from moment to moment second to second. There are those who have dreamt of natural disasters and terrible loss of life. They come to understand that we are all connected energetically. Like a ripple affect, things that happen can be felt by those who are sensitive to changes and thoughts. Accept that you are a lovely kind sensitive person who feels things deeply. That this gift can bring with it as much joy and fulfillment in the way we appreciate life and interact with others as it can negative feelings.
Lostsoul you are definitely not being punished in any way. Just trust in God and any thoughts and worries you have about this, surrender them to him. It is not a burden he would wish you to carry. Such is the nature of this world and life, sad and bad things do happen. Appreciate the good things and know that if there had been anything you could have done you would have done it. We do not have the power to change the future and what will be will be.
Love and light
Kaz
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Post by lostsoul on Jan 8, 2012 23:33:47 GMT
If it were anything other than the death of my son I would agree with you 110%. I've had what some call "premonitions" off and on through out my life. I was taught that we should listen to that still small voice. Some people have bad feelings about going out with friends one night and stays home. Thw next day he finds out they were all killed in a car accident. Had he not listenedn he would have met the same fate. Last year I had strong feelings that I needed to clean out behind my dryer and remove any lint before we had a fire. I've never had an urge to do that before. A few times during the day I kept thinking about a fire if I didn't. I got busy and spaced it off. At 10 pm I was just getting ready for bed when a friend who was staying with me asked if he could do some laundry. I told him to wait a few minutes so I could go clean behind the dryer so we wouldn't have a fire. While I was in the laundry room, smoke started coming from the room next to me. We had an electrical fire inside the wall. We were able to cut the power and get the fire out. My fire alarm system didn't go off as it should have. If I hadn't been given the warnings throughout the day, we'd all been killed in our sleep. This is why I feel I was given the warnings but this time I failed miserably to prevent his death. I am just trying to figure out what and why and when we are given signs and when we can and can't do anything to stop things from happening.
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Post by lostsoul on Jan 15, 2012 14:03:32 GMT
Thank you Sparklekaz, I really appreciate that you responded. It doesn't appear that there are answers to my questions here. I just thought someone would be able to direct me to the right place to read about this subject. Who knows, maybe there aren't any answers to be found. Not in this life anyway. You know, I never thought I'd look forward to leaving this ugly place. I remember when I would have a bad day and tell myself that tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow is a new day and a new start. It seems like such a lifetime ago.
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Post by sparklekaz on Jan 15, 2012 14:13:59 GMT
Dear lostsoul,
I am really so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a child is a terrible thing. I know as a mum myself you did all you could for your son. You are grieving and life must seem very dark for you. I don't know if you have other children, but they will need you now more then ever. I believe your son is safe and in a good place. He would want you to live and find happiness in life and to love and support your family. I hope you have plenty of support around you. When this happens we need lots of love.
Though its no comfort, as time passes it will get easier to bear and you will remember the love you shared more then the pain you feel right now. You will see him again one day when your time comes but for now live your life to the fullest, I am sure it is what he would want for his lovely mum.
I am here if you ever want to talk.
Love and light
Kaz
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Post by jennylynn on Jan 16, 2012 1:11:10 GMT
Hello lostsoul: I can feel your pain...I lost my daughter almost 7 years ago, and there are times when I feel that I should have been able to see what was happening and stop it....I couldn't....no matter what I would have done, it was her time to pass from linear into spiritual.
I believe that we each choose our time to leave....although we do not recognize it as such as humans...the veil is thick. Please believe that your son lives on...just in a different dimension, and if you open your heart--you will feel him near you. In fact, at some point, you may even be able to have a conversation with him. When my daughter passed, it felt that the world should stop turning, and I was so surprised to see the sun come up the following day....but life goes on...as it should.
Your life is not over..there are still things for you to do. Your son had completed his learning at this time, and there was no longer any use for a physical body for him. It is hard to accept..we are not supposed to bury our children..it seems that there is no logic in this.
There will be a long slow learning of your "new normal" and you will never be the same, although many will expect you to be. Give yourself time, as Kaz says...it is the only true healer for a heart broken by the loss of a child....and don't be afraid to grieve and talk about your son...there is no time line for such a loss.
I wish that I could rach you and give you a hug...instead, I will send you a mental hug and spiritual healing. Please feel free to express yourself here, and know that you are not alone.
Wishing you Love, Light and Peace
jennylynn
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Post by monkey100 on Jan 17, 2012 14:57:56 GMT
I am sorry for your loss, I have not lost a son but I can only image how hard it must be. Even harder when one has had a premonition of sorts that it may happen.
There is no fixed answer for why we have premonitions, when we can do something about them, or when we will have them. They are usually personally related to the persona having them.
What is fixed is that we will have challenges in life, and we my learn from them and grow, or we may fail in learning from them. No action or non-action is a failure when we learn from it and grow, and no action or non-action will bring punishment from a god, this punishment comes only from ourselves, like for instance, not forgiving yourself.
So what we have as a given is challenges, and we may think in the current happenings in our life, why we have those challenges, and how we can use them to our benefit.
Again, my friend, I am very sorry for the loss and the suffering. And please do take your time in the grieving. This is as you say, a life changing event, but how we change is up to us. At the moment it may seem harsh, but there is an old saying, "Cry when you are sad, when we are done crying life goes on".
Perhaps in time you will learn self-forgiveness, and honing of your intuitive skills. I wish you all the best and you are in my prayers.
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Post by purplerosie on Feb 18, 2012 23:35:44 GMT
i think you have an ability to listen to the inner world this is what you know in your heart and this is what has caused you so much pain over the loss of your son. You knew about the fire, you listened then. Why couldnt you prevent the loss of your son is what you are wrestling in your thoughts and causing the aching in your heart. I wish I had a solution that could ease the pain and hurt that sits there. We do know things we just sometimes dont listen for whatever those reasons are at the time. Things are as they are. It is not until we reach acceptance of what is that we can really understand the reasons. I have had many conversations with people who have had near death experiences. One particular man spoke to me with such love in his eyes about this 'other place'. He did not want to return to us after he felt the love and the sense of belonging and overwhelming peace of that 'other place'.He was fortunate, he had no further fear of what life held at the end our lives here. It is just our lack of faith that what he says is true. He didnt look to me like a man who was lying. God bless you and your son
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Post by jazz on Feb 25, 2012 2:27:59 GMT
I am struggling with an issue in my life that I can't move away from. Why does God give us feelings of things that will happen in our lives? Is it to prepare us for the event or is it to help us prevent it? For about 3 weeks I had a feeling that something horrible was about to happen. I was sick to my stomach and I had an urgent panic feeling. I told my close friends and boyfriend about the feeling. About 3 days before this event happened, my best friend told me about a dream she'd had. It was almost exactly the same as the event. I feel in my heart I was given these signs to prevent its occurance and I failed miserably. I can't find any scriptures that covers this issue. My life will never be the same and I can't see any happiness for me. Maybe that is a form of punishment for not paying attention. Anyway, if anyone out there can help me find some answers I'd really be grateful. Thank you.  We are not responsible for actions that happen to others that are out of our hands, we are all here to experience whatever we have chosen to experience, you cant blame yourself for not being able to prevent something happening that was to be for that person negative or positive. God does not punish us for not being able to prevent any event that another is to experience, he doesnt work that way, if we get a certain warning or feeling about another person it is up to us to whether we want to act on it or ignore that feeling or warning, we can only pass on what we are given to that person eg, if you know a person who has a weak heart and they are pushing themselves too hard, and you get a warning from spirit to pass on to that person that they need to slow down, and they dont listen to you, it is not your fault that they chose not to listen, it is also not your fault if you dont pass on a warning to that person, because regardless of any warning if that person is meant to have a heart attack which they created themselves because of their actions not to slow down and take it easy for their health sake then they will have a heart attack, you are not to blame what will be will be regardless of what warnings we get. It is up to us through our free will and choice to want to speak of any warning or not,but you do need to know, you are not responsible for anything that occurs in any event that was meant to be, when you allow yourself to understand that and feel that you will set yourself free from any guilt you have with any further warnings you recieve from spirit, about others, also spirit give you warnings to take notice of or to ignore about yourself, remember your spirit guides who give you these messages dont interfere with your free will and choice, so if you feel something is wrong in your gut feelings, and you choose to ignore that, or follow that warning you do so through your own free will and choice, spirit try hard to get us to pay attention to certain warnings if .they see we are headed for any danger, but again it is our choice to take notice or ignore it, it is all part of your spiritual learning here on this earth plane. Your life isnt over far from it you are just learning about how to use certain things we are given from spirit an God and that we dont have to feel guilty in any way for events happening that we have no control over any way. You will learn as you go along, we are always guided by God and our spirit guides and angels, we have to learn in our own way according to what we have chosen to learn here on this earth plane as individuals but trust we are never alone, we are assisted and helped in many ways by unseen help of a higher energy consiousness. Please trust in God more than your own personal feelings of being a failure, there are no failures only lessons and you will have many lessons here to learn about your self, others, and much much more, life is your greatest teacher here if we allow it to be. You will be fine theres lots for you to look forward too and to experience enjoy your journey and embrace all the learning along the way Love and light Jazz. |
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Post by jazz on Feb 27, 2012 1:13:21 GMT
Thank you Sparklekaz, I really appreciate that you responded. It doesn't appear that there are answers to my questions here. I just thought someone would be able to direct me to the right place to read about this subject. Who knows, maybe there aren't any answers to be found. Not in this life anyway. You know, I never thought I'd look forward to leaving this ugly place. I remember when I would have a bad day and tell myself that tomorrow will be better. Tomorrow is a new day and a new start. It seems like such a lifetime ago. Dear Lost Soul my son has been in spirit now for 22 years i lost him to a motor bike accident when he was 19 years old in `1988, the pain and grief ripped my heart out completly i didnt want to be here without my son i loved him so much with all my heart and soul, we had a soul bond of love he was special to me, it is every mums worst nightmare come true when something happens to her child or children, we never want to see anything happen to our children. You never get over this emotion of losing a child, each day is a struggle to get through to the next one, a week, a month a year goes by, and still you are in this world of your own you cant explain it your life is never the same regards of how many years pass, you have to except it in the best way you know how, my spiritual path helped me through and to understand more of how life is here on this earth plane, my mum bless her took me to see a lovely english medium, she brought my son through and told me things only i knew and she possibly couldnt, she told me i would be helping others through grief, with my gifts, and that she herself had lost a daughter before she knew of her purpose her of helping others who has lost a child. Before you can even begin to understand anothers pain of losing a child, you need to experience that for yourself, this is a path we choose knowing we are going to make certain sacrifices and lose the ones we love so dearly in our hearts, to be able to offer comfort and proof of life after, as was shown and experienced by myself from my son and from spirit. My son is my spiritual helper, his love and presence are always with me and around me, he has his own work in spirit to tend tol, but when i need his help when i am healing or giving comfort and messages from a loved one past over to a client he is right there with me bless him helping me with my work, of course i would rather have my son back and not this gift, i miss him terribly and would love to see him walk in the door again and say hi mum and give me a big hug like he used to but it cannot be like that physically again for me, i have had to ajust to knowing he is still with me in a different way living on in spirit, i am blessed to have my sons love, happiness, sense of humour, guidance , strength that has kept me going, and his presence always letting me know he has not left me and we will meet again when its time for me to leave this earth plane, and i cant wait for that moment to happen to hold him in my arms again look into his beautiful laughing eyes and know we are together again. I know more than anyone what you are going through, and i am so sorry for your pain believe me i do feel it just as it were my own, please know in your heart your son like mine chose only to be here for a short time, in a past life my son outlived all his children and wife, he lived to a very old age and was lonely becuase he had a very long life time here, this life time he chose to be here for a short time, because he chose not to experience that again, when i understood of our choices of how we will be here as individuals it made alot of sense to me why in this lifetime he chose to do alot and he did, in a short time. The grief does become lighter, the pain still remains with you, i feel your lovely son trys very hard to let you know he hasnt left you forever, and will be helping you with something you will want to do for others in the future, he is letting me know now mum theres nothing you could have done, please stop hurting yourself and blaming yourself for something that was not in your hands to put right or fix, he is saying Mum there are just some things that have to be, he wants you to know you will be alright and he is with you he often pops in when you are in the kitchen alot and he watches you while you are asleep sitting next to you he see's your tears and more than anything he wants you to know how much he loves you and will always be there for you he is putting his arms around you as he is saying this he is leaving with his love and blessings and wants you to believe with all your heart you havent lost him forever he also wants you to know your life isnt over Mum only what you are going through now which he understands but doesnt want this pain to over take your life as new things are going to come in for you. Godbless You . Love and blessings |
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We are not responsible for actions that happen to others that are out of our hands, we are all here to experience whatever we have chosen to experience, you cant blame yourself for not being able to prevent something happening that was to be for that person negative or positive.