Sorry or not?

[zanna]

Hi Everyone.

I'd just like to ask this to see what you think. When we are in the wrong most of us say sorry, and mean it, but what happens when someone will not say sorry? What if they show that they are sorry in a different way?

God Bless,xxx

[sparklekaz]

Hi Zanna,

My sister is one of those people who will not say sorry even if she knows she is in the wrong. What she does is pretend nothing ever happened. Or just start being really nice, again not actually saying anything about THE problem.

Why some people find it hard to say those three little words, your guess is as good as mine. Its never been a problem for me. But I think if they can show they are really sorry by being extra specially nice and doing nice things for you, maybe you have to just accept thats how they are.

Hope everything is ok hon..

Lots of love
Karen

[Leon]

Firstly if someone says they are sorry does that truly mean they are sorry. The need to hear the word sorry is within you, why does it matter, it is like someone should be impelled to say sorry for anything that is done wrong against you. It is your need for the words that are important, the ego wants to hear the words, so that the ego can think, "you know what I was right all along" this impels you to seek the word sorry so you can stroke your ego and make you better again. You are trapping the other person as well, you may not see it but theres a fine thread which attaches you to the person that you seek the word "sorry" from its like they are now chained to you and unless they say sorry they will have to hold the guilt. These are all games played by people in an ever increasing circle, please pull yourself away from the need for someone to apologize to you, as it is you who will get hurt. Just try to think like this god will thank you in another way if you live a good and true life, there is no need to seek apologies and to be proved right by any other person. God and you know what you have done right and wrong so please stop seeking strokes from people that have been deemed to have done you wrong. Maybe they have given you a gift and that gift is the chance to look within yourself. Someone who looks within for answers instead of blaming others or looking at external forces for faults has truly learned one of the biggest spiritual lessons that can be taught. God Bless

[angelight]

Hello,

I think we are taught by society that is polite to say 'sorry', as it is to say please and thank you. In that respect i think it is nice to hear someone say sorry. That is of course the human us that would like to hear those three little words, sort of like loose ends are being tied up when they are said. Of course there are people who just say sorry all of the time out of habit, in which case it means nowt really!

It's like everything else isn't it? The words are meaningless, it's the feeling attatched to the words that are important.

If you are 'sorry' all of the time surely that could be quite negative. As long as we accept when we have done something wrong and make moves to try not to make the same mistake again, I think that is probably the most important thing.

I do understand what you are both saying, and there is indeed much wisdom in your words big guy!

Just lately, I have tried to stop saying and feeling sorry for things that I really shouldn't be saying or feeling sorry for. I was made aware I was doing this by our Lizzie, such a routine conversation we were having, yet that stuck in my head as something i believe i need to address. Thanks for that Lizzie. I don't know how my laptop doesn't explode with all this blinkin love and wisdom crammed inside!!

Thats the lot from me for now! Love u lots like jelly tots (and vodka shots.....lol!)

Byeeeeeeee,

Kelly xxx

[undineworker]

all conversations are simply exchanges of energy between two people....if we are unable to get our energy in the normal way, we will get it from each other...by "stealing" it - so if you are feeling in need of energy and you get into an argument, someone will drain your energies, if they "win" the argument - however, if you win, you will have stolen some of their energy....now the truth of the matter is, whether or not you are sorry or they are sorry is not what its about, its simply about who will win the energy they need at that time...so think on this, the next time you argue, simply send someone a bunch of flowers in your mind, and then things will dissipate (thanks for that one Kelly it works!!) and there will be no theft of energies...try reading THE CELESTINE PROPHECY by james Redfield if you want to understand this exchange further...its fascinating stuff!

I work with someone who says sorry all the time but NEVER MEANS IT!!

Love and Light
Lizzie xx