How To Deal With Negative Thoughts.

[Leon]

Negative thoughts, everyone of us gets them at sometime in our life. Some people live with them everyday. These thoughts can range from remembering that you have been abused or mistreated to saying bad things to people or thinking them in your mind. Now holding a bad thought is not good for you, even if you are right and such and such person has done you harm.

What I am about to explain is a practical way or changing your thoughts over time. From time to time you hear people trying to give spiritual advice on how to combat problems, you will hear people say surround the person or problem in white light or love or any number of similar terminologies. Some of you will say if only it was that easy, to surround someone in pink fluffy feathers and they will become loving the next day.

True this is hard, but here we are not trying to change other people, we are trying to change ourselves. It is our perception of life and bad things that happen to us, that hurt. One woman may break a nail and cry for ages over it the same woman may not flinch at watching someone die. Her friend could be in tears at the death of a friend but make a joke out of breaking her nail. We all perceive differently, we all feel differently and we all show this in a many number of ways.

Now what do we do when we get a negative thought, say of someone who has done us wrong, we feel angry and hurt. Who are we hurting but ourselves, the thought is hurting us. This is the technique I want you to try. Using this more constructive method, you will understand how to use loving words to repel bad and negative thoughts. Now every time you get a bad thought about anything, whether it be someone who's done wrong to you, or you holding bad thoughts towards another, do this. Send the thought towards the love and the light. Opposite to a dustbin as some may say or a trash can. We don't want to hold any negative thoughts so we will use positive places to send these bad thoughts. Imagine a Nice room full of love and light, whenever a bad thought comes. And place it in the room.

It doesn't matter if you get 100 bad thoughts a day and still disagree with what someones done to you. just place the thought in the care of the room that holds love and light. You don't want the thought as it hurts you so let it be dealt with elsewhere. Now as you do this with all bad thoughts over weeks and months, you will notice that instead of taking 30s seconds for you to think of the love and light room, it will pop up into your mind faster and faster each week. Until the love and the light room appears in your mind even before the though has any chance of entering your mind.

The love and the light will defend you as you have made an effective barrier. In a way this is like brainwashing yourself, but brainwashing in a good way. Nobody wants negative thoughts as they hurt you and make you fearful of life. So please try this technique, there is method in it and it will work if you practice it over time. God bless Live in the love and light.

[angelight]

Hi Leon,

I agree with what you have said here completely. This is similar to my thoughts but a slightly different way of approaching it. I will definately be baring this method in mind!

xx

[zanna]

I think I understand Leon. I try to visulize a angel giving me a box to put all my pain into, then my angel carries these thoughts away to the divine light. Does that make sense?

God Bless,xxx

[archaeologiaian]

hi
couldnt agree more,very simular to what we were taught when we started meditation,moving belt, place all your thoughts that come in to your head, and place them on the belt,after a while of using this idea it became easier,and quicker to become more relaxed,and leave the world and its things behind.

[undineworker]

Dear Leon,

I like the idea, but I have a question....are not all experiences, both good and bad, here to help us to learn in life? Do we not have to have the lessons assimilated into our being to learn and grow from them? I was nearly in tears today, my boss was being his usual nasty self, when I went away to the ladies room and thought about it, it gave me a chance to see that it was his problem not mine, and I felt better. I gave him his thoughts back if you see what I mean, but mine improved in the process - is the light a cop-out in a way? I mean, do we stop learning if we simply send these thoughts away?

Love and Light
Lizzie xx

[Leon]

Liz sending the thought into a loving room does not mean you get rid of the problem. basically you start associating problems with loving thoughts. Yes you may still have to deal with problems, or angry bosses but they wont hurt you as much as you are sort of brainwashing yourself not to feel the hurt. Who deep down wants to feel hurt or sick. Last night I spoke to a girl thats been abused since she was a child by 3 different people, she has negative thoughts and nightmares nearly every day, she lives a life of fear. These thoughts have lost all her self esteem. I explained the way to her that I have shown everyone. Now she has a tool that she can use to help defend herself from bad thoughts. Also I asked her to fill her house with nice objects that remind her of the beauty in this world, like flowers, angels faeries etc. I also asked her to try to understand other peoples actions. I explained that her abusers probably knew no better and was taught by parents that knew no better and lacked love. All these people sit now in her loving room, Yes she will still hold hatred towards them from time to time, but now when she sees bad thoughts she will see her loving room, that will take care of them. Yes she could do with proper counselling, but her life is a misery and this is a good start, where she can stop hurting herself with these negative thoughts and get on with her life.

[undineworker]

Leon, I have to say I admire your advice and respect your ideas greatly. I dont know how easy I would find it to forgive abusers, as I was also abused. I do not know how many years I lived with that awful feeling, and it made me have lots of self loathing and hatred for men. I do feel know that I have learned to forgive, but I am in my forties now....I wish I had learned how to forgive earlier.

You have given that girl hope and I understand what you say. I think brainwashing is too strong a word, more reprogramming of the mind, that is kinder, because brainwashing is done to people in wartime...although perhaps sometimes people live in their own private wars....

Love and Light
Lizzie xx

[Leon]

Well lets just say her brain needed a good spring clean to wash all those bad negative thoughts. Yes this will take time to clear but if someone say a good thought the second they think a bad thought, slowly this will diffuse the hurt the bad thoughts had brought. As bad thoughts are like brainwashing but a nasty way. lets do the same but with good things.

[zanna]

Dear Liz. I know where you are coming from, the way I forgave was to imagine that I gave back the pain to the person that gaveit to me. This is what I said "I forgive you for what you did, I am not saying that it is ok, but I am saying that I no longer wish to carry your pain, you are free from my life & I am free from yours" God Bless,xxx

[undineworker]

that is a good idea, Zanna, did you feel free afterwards?

Love and Light
Lizzie xx

[angelight]

Leon,

I used the method of replacing a negative thought with a positive thought (along with lots of other methods, lol) when i was trying to dig my way out of a big old negative hole many moons ago. Any positive thought at all works, Its cool!

Anyhoo.......thats all i wanted to say, lol!

love and light,

Kel xx

[tickledpink]

My angle on thoughts differs a little

I used to feel bad when I had so called "negative thoughts". I would get stressed, and think that I should not be having those types of thoughts. Then, with time, I learned to embrace them for what they were. Thoughts, period. I trained myself not to judge them, but to love and accept them without condition. Thoughts come and go, they are what they are. My behavior did not change because of them, my choice is to be kind and loving. I want to share a world built on peace and understanding. Today, I don't get upset if something "less fun" enters my mind. I'm still me, I haven't changed. Another good exercise to get back on track is "This too shall pass". Relax, let go........ Don't worry; Be happy More Hugs

[zanna]

Hi Liz, I felt like I was back in control of my life, nobody was putting their pain onto me anymore, I felt free.xxxxxxx

[undineworker]

freedom is a wonderful thing, Zanna, and I like your take on thoughts too, tp, but remember our thoughts create our reality....I think you can control them and you should. I do not say jump about and be happy all the time, but to raise your vibration you must keep your thoughts on higher things....be in your higher self all the time then the thoughts which come are for your learning process...it is possible. It takes practice, and lots of patience.

Can I also just take this opportunity too to say welcome to tickledpink and please feel to post any unusual dreams if you want me to interpret them for you! Welcome to the godlight!!


Love and Light
Lizzie xx

[tickledpink]

A special Hello to you Lizzie

When I found this site, I saw your picture, I read some of your messages, and some of you dream interpretations. The first impression that I had was, GENERO-LIZZIE I felt that you were a very kind, simple, generous and loving person. Thank you so much for offering to interpret my dreams. When I have one to share, I'll post it for you Thank you also for the very warm welcome

A little more about thoughts: Like dropping an object on the floor and having it break, we will all experience having "negative thoughts". Situations we experience can lead to anger, disappointment, rejection and the like. We will all swear, imagine ourselves throwing a punch at someone, play out answers to heated arguments in our minds, and so on. Under difficult circumstances, to have these types of thoughts and feelings that accompany them is normal. What's more important, is how we ultimately choose to deal with them. That's where I feel the real spiritual work begins. To add our grain of sand to the ascension process, we have decide what kind of world we want to live in. Do we want to add fuel to a fire, or do we want to put it out. Are we peacemakers or trouble starters We can allow ourselves our anger and our "negative thoughts", they are part of the whole of who we are; but if we want to change the world, we will have to find peaceful ways to resolve our issues. A great exercise that I find useful, is to instantly think of a window of opportunity opening before me, the minute I feel my thoughts and emotions intensifying. It is a window full of peaceful options to rectify any situation. I can choose to write a letter, to be discarded at a later date, (once the anger has dissapated)....I can share my thoughts and feelings with a neutral friend, I can participate in a self help forum on the net, the options are endless..... My absolute favorite quote of all time is "Be the change that you want to see in the world".{Ghandi} I'm sure that he had more than his share of "negative thoughts" , but he chose the path of peace, as did Martin Luther King Jr. We can all add to the great ripple of Love and Peace that is stretching out all around our planet. We must be steadfast and use the self help tools that are available to us. The more we use the tools, the stronger we become. Situations will bother us less. The world will be a kinder, gentler, nicer place for everyone.....Hugs, Hugs, and more Hugs

[zanna]

Hi hun, good words... when I get negative thoughts about people, situations etc I imagine my angels giving me a box and I put those thoughts & feelings in that box and ask the angels to carry them away to the Divine White light so they can be dissolved in to love,xxxxxxxxx

[undineworker]

Dear tp, I feel humble once more in light of your very generous appraisal of me. I am sure I do not deserve such praise...what do you mean by GENERO LIZZIE? it puzzled me a little! lol. I do look forward to interpreting any of your dreams, interesting thought.

I love the idea of a window of opportunity opening to allow you any options to deal with things...brilliant idea....I find that the bigger our fears the more difficult it is to be neutral about them! It is almost impossible to feel neutral about fears, and yet the more you allow the fears to take root, the further away you get from a possible solution. It is a quandary. I love the way you deal with fears too, Zanna. Really interesting.

Love and LIght
Lizzie xx

[tickledpink]

Hi Lizzie

I meant GENEROSITY= GENERO-LIZZIE

Also SIMPLICITY= SIMPLI-LIZZIE

Just a cute way to describe you
How wonderful that your name fits in !!!!
I can't explain it, I was thinking about it the other night before falling asleep. I love to play with words The kid in me, I guess.

Lots of Hugs

[undineworker]

Dont explain - we should all have a kid in us, that is wonderful! If more of us retained the child within we would be better people, because the child asks for nothing and sees everythign in sweetness and innocence and does not judge.

You are kind.

Love and Light
Lizzie xx

[tickledpink]

A sweet Hello to you Zanna

Your angel box is one of the cutest things that I've ever heard
I will do that. What a soft, kind and adorable way to let go of those thoughts. I imagine an angel arriving softly and silently with his/her box. In stillness, I put my thoughts in to be gently carried elsewhere. You're toooo cute

Zanna, I've seen your avatar picture before, but I never found out what the "Light Beam" in the hand was for? Do you know what it represents?

Angel Hugs for you today

[angelight]

Hey Krissy I think i will do that too on occaision, with the box. But maybe a Fairy or a big old tree can bring mine! Lol.

k x

[zanna]

Hi TP! Do you know what? I don't actually know! Maybe it's Michaels light of seeing the truth and showing us the truth when we ask? Or maybe it's for healing? Im not sure TP, maybe someone else here maybe able to help?

God Bless babe & thatnks for poiting that out! xxxxxxxx