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[whitebutterfly]

Im from Ireland.Im young, on the way to 20! i joined because im going through a rough time. My Grandmother died 5 months ago she lived with us at home all my life with her partner, my grandfather so we were all very close.She had a fight with cancer and she died in our arms one heartbreaking night. We were all trying to make the best of Christmas coming up this year when we got up one morning to find my grandfather in bed dead.that was the 2nd dec only 4 months after my grandmother. Two people from our family, our home- just gone like that. Christmas was so weird. I went to a medium the other day and there is no doubt that they are in spirit. I just need to talk to people who are grieving too because i feel so alone.
I do believe that they are out there but i am still so cut up with grief that i need to get through.

xxx

[sparklekaz]

Hello White butterfly,

Welcome to the group...

I am so very sorry for your loss, the feelings you and your family are going through at the moment are probably almost more then you can bear. Its the sense of unreality that comes from having two, much loved family members taken from you and having to cope with that at this time of the year which is all about family and love.

You are right they are together in spirit, and I am sure they will let you know either through your dreams, or by small signs around you and in your home that they are happy and well. This is a wonderful site, full of people who have experienced loss as you have. I myself, lost my mother and my uncle within three days of each other. Less then 2 years later, my Aunt, mum's sister and the wife of my uncle also passed. They meant the world to me and the feelings of pain, and a sense of unreality lasted for some time. I know exactly what you are going through, as do many others who come to The God light, so will find many people to share with here.

Take each day at a time, grieving is natural and a necessary process. Tears are a release and as time goes by you will start to remember all the good and funny things about them, rather then the sharp pain of loss. There will laughter as well as tears. There will be good days and bad days, but the thing is not to bottle anything up, just talk about it and let it out.

I look forward to seeing you in chat Whitebutterfly....I love your name, did you know that the Butterfly is the symbol for Transformation and Eternal and everlasting life? White is for purity and the colour of the spirit, a very fitting name.......

Love and light
Kaz

[mia]

Hello white butterfly (((hugs)))
I am so sorry you lost your nan and grandad so close to Christmas, I think it's one of the worst times for it to happen cos all around are people happy and bright, laughing and yet you feel you cannot join in cos there is no happiness inside of you.

I lost my dad last February, he was 78. I am so proud of how my mum has coped, but we, my sis, bro and I keep her busy and visit her often.

What are your beliefs on life and death?

My beliefs and my mum's helped us through that bad time of dad's passing.

I think it is beautiful that your nan and grandad lived with you all, they must have felt so secure, loved and wanted.

What were they like?
I love to hear about the elderly and their lives, thoughts etc.

I am a home carer, I visit the elderly and disabled every day, to wash and dress, etc. So I learn a lot about them.

I am thinking of you w/butterfly,
Love mia xx

[rosesrblu111]

Hi Whitebutterfly, I am so sorry for the loss of your family members, I know what you are feeling, I lost my mom to cancer and then later my dad. But I have learned they just leave the body and go to spirit and that I will join them again when I go to spirit again and know that they are always with me. Knowing this has happened me greatly.

I hope we will be able to talk in the chat room and I am glad you came to the Godlight site.

Jackie