Ilonas dream from june 12, 2008

[nonigirl]

ok, i cannot remember alot of it but here goes

My husband went off to work(he doesn't work in real life) and on his way he dropped a jacket, sweater, and hood to the jacket which had come apart from the jacket.
I was somehow following from behind when he went to work and didn't notice him dropping it on the way to work but saw it as i drove back home. I picked the items up and went home. I called his workplace to let him know about the stuff he dropped and he was unavailable...all day he stayed unavailable like as if he was angry(he never gets angry in real life).
The secretaries at the office gave him my messages and I finally was given a written message back from him but it was written on a strange material...it said that he loved me so much and always would. Mind you, in the dream i recall, as he was leaving to go to work, he was upset because he didn't think i loved him anymore.
When i got the message though, i remember feeling relieved and then i set it down, someone picked it up when i wasn't looking and bit part of it off and when i needed it to prove to others that he did still love me, i had a hard time making out what it said again but then was able to....

I dont remember much more

[sparklekaz]

Hi Ilona,

This is an interesting dream. Your husband was off to work, indicating an industrious nature, the desire to better himself and provide for his family. You say in REAL life, he doesn't work. Is this a situation that has been forced on him? Either due to health or lack of opportunity? It may be that you have picked up on his desire to change his situation at home and he would rather be working.

You say in real life he does not get angry, but in the dream he was!! Again, it is doing something that is contrary to normal behavior. It might be again that you are picking up on undercurrents of emotion that are bubbling just below the surface. In dreams, when someone shows anger toward another, especially a spouse or family member, it can indicate that work needs to be done on the relationship. It maybe that there is a breakdown in communication. This then makes sense when you say that you tried to leave messages for him all day, but could not get hold of him. Are you trying to tell him something in real life, but cannot GET THRU TO HIM. Your subconscious mind maybe wrestling with this dilemma. In your dream, your husband writes you a message and tells you that he loves you very much. Maybe he is a man who finds it difficult to express himself verbally?

Many men, and women find it hard to put into words how they feel. Especially if they are not tactile or used to showing affection or expressing affection in this way. They think that we should just know how they feel about us. Maybe here there might be a clue as, as to how to improve things when dealing with communication between you. Sometimes, it is easier to put pen to paper and write things down rather then getting into an emotional exchange of words. This way, you can read back what you have written and rephrase things if they don't sound quite right, in so doing preventing things becoming too emotive.

When we see a man in our dreams, apart from the obvious as in this case it is your spouse, the man can represent our masculine ideal. He can also symbolise masculine aspects of our own personality. The forceful, strong, decisive aspect to our personalities which is often admired in men, but not in women, so we sometimes suppress it. The dream could be saying to you, be more assertive in your own life, about your needs and desires.

I hope this has helped a little Ilona, as always, this is only my interpretation of your dream, take from it only that which resonates with you, and leave the rest.

Love and light
Kaz

[nonigirl]

Kaz, Thank you for spending so much time with me and my dream, I so appreciate it! I am now convinced it was not my husband even though it look exactly like him in the dream....So many things are just nothing like him or what he is doing in life or not doing.

My husband is not industrious at all, has no problem saying anything and tells me and shows me he loves me constantly, lol. I must have been dreaming about someone else.

The funny thing is, I am not telling him things myself...maybe it is about me and how i am not asserting myself....Food for thought!! Thanks again Kaz!! Love You!!

[sparklekaz]

Hi Ilona,

Thank you for the feedback.

It could indeed be you, as I said, its about communication and if as you say, you are not saying how you feel, then the dream could be your unconcious mind nudging you to be more honest and assertive about your needs and what you want out of life.

Love and light
Kaz