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Post by sunflowerusa on Dec 20, 2006 10:42:17 GMT
What do you do when you have a hard time trusting some people? This can be very hard to deal with. You try to let it go and then something else happens and you question the trust again. Is this something from the past that makes trust hard or is it that you dont trust yourself? This I need help with and want to be freed from permanently. I pray to god that I may learn this and be free from it. I'm sure there are others that share this worry maybe a boss a friend or a relative? Sometimes its not that there are huge reasons yet small things that add up and you have a hard time letting go of things. Or it is a gut or funny feeling inside. If anyone has anything to share on this topic I could use some help!  Bless you All!!! jess |
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Post by sunflowerusa on Dec 20, 2006 10:50:02 GMT
Another thought I know that childhood experiences can hinder ones trust yet those things have been accepted and forgiven. And the saying about trust has to be earned yet at some point you have to at least trust your self to even make a new friend or talk to some people you dont know to make a new friend. To allow yourself to trust others and open up for possible hurts. And when you do open up and start to be disapointed or flags are raised and you start too ? your trust for someone. Sorry guys going on and on,lol. Any help on this would be appreciated? Love andLight jess |
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Post by sunflowerusa on Dec 20, 2006 11:05:46 GMT
Back again! went to get coffee and thought came to mind, All you can do is trust in god. What ever the reason trust is hard or what ever the situation is that is making you ? your trust for someone. It is for a reason and maybe a learning thing. This is easy saying but a very hard and scarey thing to do so some times. But life can be very lonely if you have a hard time trusting others. So I think that the more I trust in god and know that for what ever situation Iam in god knows why and all I can do is to be at peace knowing he will set me free. Its scarey and lonely in this world, we all need to come together and be more loving and trusting. This I truely struggle with. I will pray to god again for help on this.
ok ok ok Ill shut up now,lol jess
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Post by Gina on Dec 20, 2006 18:52:33 GMT
Hi
My gut feeling told me not to trust a "friend" of mine, I ignored this gut feeling & my "friend" turned out to be my worst enemy ! I should have gone with my gut feeling. I think you should always go with your gut feeling, how many times are you wrong, if you do ! It is hard to put trust into people if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past. I find it very difficult to trust. You may forgive people for their actions but its very hard to forget. I think you get an idea of someone from the way they respond to you when you meet them.
Love & light
Gina
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Post by sparklekaz on Dec 20, 2006 20:41:49 GMT
Trust is one of the hardest things to get back, once its gone. But everyone does deserve a second chance. If they blow that one, well, you have to back away and put it down to experience. But thats all very well, when its friends or acquaintances, what do you do, when its family?
My eldest son has been stealing from me. Earlier on this year, he took my cash card from my purse and stole £400 over a period of about 3 months. Goodness knows how much more he had stolen before we noticed. Money had been going missing from my purse for ages. It turned out he had a gambling problem. Fruit machines, and game machines. He also stole off his sister, and then his best friends mum and dad. He could have got charged, but they let us pay the money back, and didn't press charges. His best friend is still his friend, but if he does it again, who knows!!
As for me, I discovered last week, he had done it again, this time taken £400 over the space of a month. The pain and hurt I feel, you cannot imagine. I have shouted at him, and cried at him. I don't know if he even truly understands what he has done. I love him dearly, cos he is my son. But do I trust him now, No!! Will the trust ever come back, who knows!! He has to earn that trust back. I too Gina, was hurt by my best friend, and we are now friends again, but its not the same. Something changed, forever. The only thing you can do, is rebuild. Whether its a friend, son, daughter, or a lover, husband. Take this day as the first day and then build on it.
I say, I will toughen up, that I wont be caught out again, but I know I will. Because, I have a loving and open heart, and ultimately I believe that there is good in everyone. But hopefully, I will be more cautious. That is all anyone can be..and don't rush in so fast to give your heart away, to anyone, without allowing trust to grow first.
Love and light
Kaz
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Post by sunflowerusa on Dec 21, 2006 10:50:58 GMT
Thank you Kaz and Gina for sharing! Kaz I will send you and you son loving thoughts and bless you hun. Trust is one of the hardest things to get back.I think maybe when its a friend or a coworker, even to just know it was probably a learning thing for you, its abit easiesr to cut the loses.And just know that you learned something from it and maybe not just the fact you couldnt trust them anymore but the actual situation that caused the missed trust. When it is family this can be a bit tricky, I guess all you can do is set our boundaries and when these people crosss them take action. All in All to trust in god that we are put in these situations to learn. And when we dont know how to fix it, turn it over to him and trust that he will make it right.Bless you Both! jess |
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Bless you All!!! jess 
