Post by tribunalofmercy on Oct 24, 2014 23:58:49 GMT
Earlier this evening I found myself doing the Human thing again...I let my feelings get hurt. You know, someone can say just about Anything to me and it will just bounce Right Off...unless I think I am at Fault. Oh yes...it doesn't really matter what Truth is, at that point - what Matters, is how I Feel about my role in the whole thing. And yes, there is a life-lesson for me here (when is there Not?)...thought I'd share it with you. 
So often it is self-Doubt, in some form, that attacks us and kicks us out of vibrational harmony in our daily relationship with other people. Our reactions to thoughts, words and emotions, our attachments to Ego and to areas relating to self-confidence, all these things come into play the moment someone “gets under our skin”, or slips through the chinks in our armor – no matter How unintentionally. And we fall backward, for a moment.
Sometimes we just don’t know what to Look for, when trying to get a Handle on these things; we don’t see the problem Coming, so we get knocked back a little without warning (setbacks are Sneaky little rascals).
I want to try an example:
Pretend you are having a discussion with your good friend or partner, and everything’s going Fine, until she says, “I don’t like that way you Said that.” Or he says, “Did you really Mean that?” or something similar. (Haven’t we heard That before, lol)
Now of course “You” meant Nothing untoward in what you said. You did Nothing wrong – yet instinctively you splutter and retort, “Hey, I didn’t Mean anything!” or, “What did I say Wrong??” At best, you may not say anything out Loud, but inside you are going, ”Where did that come from? What have I Done??”
Okay, now maybe you’re panicking. lol It’s Not because you actually Said something wrong, but because there is SO often the nagging doubt in you about how it Sounded when you said it; or what they Heard, even if you didn’t mean anything. It’s just There, because we get attached to Positive responses in our lives to Reaffirm what we say or do. It’s still an Attachment, and we need to be Completely comfortable with Ourselves….but, oh, that’s hard. Isn’t it. (Been there. repeatedly. )
So here’s another scenario: You and same person are talking. And Your name (for this scenario) is Bob. And all of a sudden your friend says to you, “Your name’s Not Bob!” ….play along with me. Get into Bob’s shoes for a minute.
You may Still say something back to your friend, like, “What are you Talking about??” or something. But examine your “insides” closely at this point: your mind, your heart…you KNOW your name is Bob, so the one thing you are Not feeling, is Doubt. ….See? Totally different reactions and feelings going on inside.
No room for Attachment issues in that scenario, is there?
Make your aim to have Everything about you as Comfortable, as Secure, and as much a Certainty as your name. Who are you? What are you All About? What is your Purpose? Who and what do you Love, and who and what loves You? KNOW these things, like you know your name, and doubt cannot Touch you.
Love and Wisdom,
Mary Anne
So often it is self-Doubt, in some form, that attacks us and kicks us out of vibrational harmony in our daily relationship with other people. Our reactions to thoughts, words and emotions, our attachments to Ego and to areas relating to self-confidence, all these things come into play the moment someone “gets under our skin”, or slips through the chinks in our armor – no matter How unintentionally. And we fall backward, for a moment.
Sometimes we just don’t know what to Look for, when trying to get a Handle on these things; we don’t see the problem Coming, so we get knocked back a little without warning (setbacks are Sneaky little rascals).
I want to try an example:
Pretend you are having a discussion with your good friend or partner, and everything’s going Fine, until she says, “I don’t like that way you Said that.” Or he says, “Did you really Mean that?” or something similar. (Haven’t we heard That before, lol)
Now of course “You” meant Nothing untoward in what you said. You did Nothing wrong – yet instinctively you splutter and retort, “Hey, I didn’t Mean anything!” or, “What did I say Wrong??” At best, you may not say anything out Loud, but inside you are going, ”Where did that come from? What have I Done??”
Okay, now maybe you’re panicking. lol It’s Not because you actually Said something wrong, but because there is SO often the nagging doubt in you about how it Sounded when you said it; or what they Heard, even if you didn’t mean anything. It’s just There, because we get attached to Positive responses in our lives to Reaffirm what we say or do. It’s still an Attachment, and we need to be Completely comfortable with Ourselves….but, oh, that’s hard. Isn’t it. (Been there. repeatedly. )
So here’s another scenario: You and same person are talking. And Your name (for this scenario) is Bob. And all of a sudden your friend says to you, “Your name’s Not Bob!” ….play along with me. Get into Bob’s shoes for a minute.
You may Still say something back to your friend, like, “What are you Talking about??” or something. But examine your “insides” closely at this point: your mind, your heart…you KNOW your name is Bob, so the one thing you are Not feeling, is Doubt. ….See? Totally different reactions and feelings going on inside.
No room for Attachment issues in that scenario, is there?
Make your aim to have Everything about you as Comfortable, as Secure, and as much a Certainty as your name. Who are you? What are you All About? What is your Purpose? Who and what do you Love, and who and what loves You? KNOW these things, like you know your name, and doubt cannot Touch you.
Love and Wisdom,
Mary Anne
