sparklekaz
Someone asked me.. What is your religion? I said, "All the paths that lead to the light".
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Post by sparklekaz on May 28, 2012 1:43:36 GMT
I believe an important part of our spiritual growth is to learn to take responsibility for our own actions. In doing this, we come to know ourselves and recognise the part we played in our own negative experiences. Hopefully through this process, we gain greater insight and come closer to self awareness and self realization.
Many people go through life blaming others for every wrong thing or bad experience that has ever happened to them. How do you learn to stop the blame game and take responsibility for your own life, or how would you advise someone to go about doing this?
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Post by gruntal on May 28, 2012 5:16:21 GMT
Well this may seem trite or corny but it happened to me and I have observed it in the others so there must be something there: I don't think I had anywhere near the opportunites in life I was promised. But one day it did change. I had some chance to make it so. At least some chance. I grabbed for it.
Some years later I even had a phone call asking me to show up for work! I was ready and didn't hesitate a bit. "I will be there tomorrow". I could have just as easily hemmed and hawed and said: "I will have to think it over".
Life is not fair. But only YOU can make yourself available. If you have unpacked your bags and taken root you have nobody but yourself to blame if nothing else happens.
A responsible person realizes he/she is responible for ALL the actions of life around him/her including what the others do. That is not fair either. But assuming ALL the problems of the cosmos; even those that are not yours; is the only way you will ever gain a "profit" beyond what happens to you.
And you must be ready at a moments notice to make it so. Do not depend on ANYBODY to remind you of that! If you "over sleep" life it will be nobodies fault but your own.
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Post by jesusrose on May 28, 2012 18:54:46 GMT
It's so difficult to just stop and look at yourself sometimes. I read part of a book recently (lost interest after a bit!), that made a statement that really rang true. Something to the tune of "we only complain about the things we can change" . Maybe it's hard to change those things - almost impossible but the fact remains that you can change them if you REALLY want to.
I've never heard of anyone complain about gravity.
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Post by bluestarman1 on May 29, 2012 3:40:02 GMT
Many of us are like Flip Wilson who was famous for his "the devil made me do it" line. It's certainly an easy out if you get caught with your hand in the cookie jar. But others have come to a two part realization. The first part is that we can control little if any of the outside forces that constantly bombard us. The second part is that the only thing we can control is how we react to the first part. If someone tries to hurt us than it's only hurtful if we allow it to be. By the same token if we are hurtful to another-for whatever reason-it's our choice. How do we learn to be responsible for our actions? As trite as it sounds, for me it was learning to love myself. Once I became the person that I that I wanted to be around, the opinions of the rest of the world ceased to matter.
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