Post by ryan on Dec 15, 2008 14:02:10 GMT
came across your web page after hearing a chat on the local radio
this is my story.....
My name is Ryan, I live in Johannesburg, South Africa, I have a waterproofing / roofing / construction company where I have had around 40 to 60 employees, ( whom some of them are guided by their traditional healers aka witch doctors or songomas) walk in and out my company's doors over the years from when I started at age 21, this I did when I found out I was going to be a father (Kayla now 13yrs) I was married for a year and then divorced and remarried someone else 4 months later and had a son ( Tynan now 11yrs)
I was attacked in my home by two armed men wanting money, guns, safe at 3am one the morning... I defended my wife and family with my fists and was able to fight off the intruders till sunrise, I dislocated both shoulders in the process, I went out after them with two security guards, we caught them, they were prosecuted and received 10 yrs jail sentences, they due out soon.
my sister called the police and had me arrested in front of my father, son and my staff, (while building a swimming pool at my home) for having 35 Grams of marijuana on my premises. I believe she did this because I did not approve of her boyfriend she was seeing at the time. her reasoning was that I had children. I was also employing my father, brother and had just bought my mom a car, my company was on the rise and I had provided the best private education for both of my children. I fought the court case with three lawyers over a stressful nine month period. she also instructed the police that my wife was also smoking Marijuana, which was not true at all... this added a load of stress to my marriage.
I divorced again after 8 years of marriage,... So I motivated myself through a course of Anthony Robins and a few books and took up a sport; riding off road endurance motor cycles. I was good at it and had the ultimate race insight called the Roof of Africa, it's a 1200km gruelling 3 day motor cycle race held once a year, high in the Lesotho mountains. took me three attempts to complete the race, the first attempt I chopped up two of my right hand fingers six weeks before the race in a accident while training, I also got testicular cancer, the cancer was extradited on the same day the race started, I completed the recommended course of radiotherapy.... on my own... while still working. During this I was followed back form the bank after withdrawing my staff's wages and held up by six armed men, robbed and searched at gun point, and the same day I had a accident that destroyed my brand new 3 day old dream car. Again I motivated myself tried a second attempt a the Roof of Africa, I was super fit, I had trained to the hilt, I was leading the race till I had a head-on collision on my bike with a pick-up driving on the race circuit 5 KM before the finish... I never saw the finish... I had dislocated most of the bones on my left side from my toe to my shoulder, but I did the race and finished the next year (2006).
I was told that my moms new husband sexually abused my daughter, a few times over a period years, this was only reviled to me by my mother because she wanted to use the evidence in her divorce, when I questioned my moms husband about the sexual abuse, he opened fire on me with his hand gun, I was shot in the back twice while I was running away I was shot once through my left lung and once shoulder, my children saw this. I body has recovered well, the doctors say it was because I was so fit. pity my mind isn't as fit.
I have met some fantastic people riding motorbikes in the mountains, some who I've taught and trained to ride and race, and many that have taught me, they comment on the things that I've endured and admire me for my tenacity towards them.
I have had a unsuccessful relationships... I was engaged to someone for two years, at the end of that I broke my left knee while fixing a friends roof, I then had a relationship with that friend's exgirlfriend.. the relationship never lasted and I lost that friend... my mistake.
I was still angry with my sister but a friend advised me to try think differently about how I was making myself feel about my sister for having me arrested, as well as family pressure, I forgave her, and tried to piece back my relationship with my sister and in good will I employed her husband .
I left my company in the hands of an employee last year that had been working for me for the passed five years, (who stole a lot of money and ran away) when , for lack of a better word... I ran away into the mountains and lived off the land for about eight months I've now been back now for four months, while back in my usual work routine, I started seeing my sister's sister in-law, Ashleigh. she was born on the day as me and we got on very well.. until two things happened, firstly I had to ask her husband to leave my company because financial reasons due to economical constraints... mostly. Secondly our cousin,( who is my sister's #1 enemy from Australia) came to South Africa for a visit. my sister was infuriated by I disagreeociation with my cousin and combined with her husband loosing his job, she demanded me to choose between her or our cousin... I refused not to engage... she promptly destroyed my relationship with Ashleigh with lies and deceit.
then the worst of all is that my daughter and her mom have moved away overseas to the UK because of the crime and violence here in South Africa, its been heart wrenching.
but my company is collapsing and I'm drinking and smoking again and trying to escape, at this time I feel there is no point in trying to be positive anymore... and finally talk about some of these things... I'm nearly 35 years old and still very unsettled.
I have read and enjoyed many spiritual books among my favourites are, Yogananda Paramahansa , the autobiography of a yogi, destiny and journey of souls by Dr. Michael Newton, many lives / many masters, the first five people we meet in heaven, signs, signals... etc.
I have had to let a lot of staff go lately.... and they are angry about it!
How would I know if I just have bad luck or perhaps there is more to it?
Thanking you for your time.
Ryan
this is my story.....
My name is Ryan, I live in Johannesburg, South Africa, I have a waterproofing / roofing / construction company where I have had around 40 to 60 employees, ( whom some of them are guided by their traditional healers aka witch doctors or songomas) walk in and out my company's doors over the years from when I started at age 21, this I did when I found out I was going to be a father (Kayla now 13yrs) I was married for a year and then divorced and remarried someone else 4 months later and had a son ( Tynan now 11yrs)
I was attacked in my home by two armed men wanting money, guns, safe at 3am one the morning... I defended my wife and family with my fists and was able to fight off the intruders till sunrise, I dislocated both shoulders in the process, I went out after them with two security guards, we caught them, they were prosecuted and received 10 yrs jail sentences, they due out soon.
my sister called the police and had me arrested in front of my father, son and my staff, (while building a swimming pool at my home) for having 35 Grams of marijuana on my premises. I believe she did this because I did not approve of her boyfriend she was seeing at the time. her reasoning was that I had children. I was also employing my father, brother and had just bought my mom a car, my company was on the rise and I had provided the best private education for both of my children. I fought the court case with three lawyers over a stressful nine month period. she also instructed the police that my wife was also smoking Marijuana, which was not true at all... this added a load of stress to my marriage.
I divorced again after 8 years of marriage,... So I motivated myself through a course of Anthony Robins and a few books and took up a sport; riding off road endurance motor cycles. I was good at it and had the ultimate race insight called the Roof of Africa, it's a 1200km gruelling 3 day motor cycle race held once a year, high in the Lesotho mountains. took me three attempts to complete the race, the first attempt I chopped up two of my right hand fingers six weeks before the race in a accident while training, I also got testicular cancer, the cancer was extradited on the same day the race started, I completed the recommended course of radiotherapy.... on my own... while still working. During this I was followed back form the bank after withdrawing my staff's wages and held up by six armed men, robbed and searched at gun point, and the same day I had a accident that destroyed my brand new 3 day old dream car. Again I motivated myself tried a second attempt a the Roof of Africa, I was super fit, I had trained to the hilt, I was leading the race till I had a head-on collision on my bike with a pick-up driving on the race circuit 5 KM before the finish... I never saw the finish... I had dislocated most of the bones on my left side from my toe to my shoulder, but I did the race and finished the next year (2006).
I was told that my moms new husband sexually abused my daughter, a few times over a period years, this was only reviled to me by my mother because she wanted to use the evidence in her divorce, when I questioned my moms husband about the sexual abuse, he opened fire on me with his hand gun, I was shot in the back twice while I was running away I was shot once through my left lung and once shoulder, my children saw this. I body has recovered well, the doctors say it was because I was so fit. pity my mind isn't as fit.
I have met some fantastic people riding motorbikes in the mountains, some who I've taught and trained to ride and race, and many that have taught me, they comment on the things that I've endured and admire me for my tenacity towards them.
I have had a unsuccessful relationships... I was engaged to someone for two years, at the end of that I broke my left knee while fixing a friends roof, I then had a relationship with that friend's exgirlfriend.. the relationship never lasted and I lost that friend... my mistake.
I was still angry with my sister but a friend advised me to try think differently about how I was making myself feel about my sister for having me arrested, as well as family pressure, I forgave her, and tried to piece back my relationship with my sister and in good will I employed her husband .
I left my company in the hands of an employee last year that had been working for me for the passed five years, (who stole a lot of money and ran away) when , for lack of a better word... I ran away into the mountains and lived off the land for about eight months I've now been back now for four months, while back in my usual work routine, I started seeing my sister's sister in-law, Ashleigh. she was born on the day as me and we got on very well.. until two things happened, firstly I had to ask her husband to leave my company because financial reasons due to economical constraints... mostly. Secondly our cousin,( who is my sister's #1 enemy from Australia) came to South Africa for a visit. my sister was infuriated by I disagreeociation with my cousin and combined with her husband loosing his job, she demanded me to choose between her or our cousin... I refused not to engage... she promptly destroyed my relationship with Ashleigh with lies and deceit.
then the worst of all is that my daughter and her mom have moved away overseas to the UK because of the crime and violence here in South Africa, its been heart wrenching.
but my company is collapsing and I'm drinking and smoking again and trying to escape, at this time I feel there is no point in trying to be positive anymore... and finally talk about some of these things... I'm nearly 35 years old and still very unsettled.
I have read and enjoyed many spiritual books among my favourites are, Yogananda Paramahansa , the autobiography of a yogi, destiny and journey of souls by Dr. Michael Newton, many lives / many masters, the first five people we meet in heaven, signs, signals... etc.
I have had to let a lot of staff go lately.... and they are angry about it!
How would I know if I just have bad luck or perhaps there is more to it?
Thanking you for your time.
Ryan
Grace
