Why won't he come & see me?

[zanna]

Hi, Hope you can help me. My Dad passed over nearly 9 years ago and although I dreamt about him & did get a message from a medium when he first passed, I have had nothing since.

I wasn't a perfect daughter but I did love him so much & I still do. I feel as though I wasn't good enough & like he didn't want me sometimes. I'm not brooding (I hope) but when ever I speak to him I get nothing, not a single thing. As he wasn't close to me while he was here do you think it the same now he has passed over? Thanks.xxx

[undineworker]

My dear Zanna, this must be so distressing for you, but I am going to let Leon answer you in more detail than I could, as he is far better equipped to do so.

I know how you must feel, I lost my father too. Do not blame yourself for being human, and all humans are imperfect. So was your father. If your father is not communicating, he may not be able to. It is not because he does not want to. There are many reasons. Please do not despair. If you have had any recent dreams about him, perhaps you could give me some more details about these, and I will try to interpret them for you?

Love and Light

Lizzie xx

[Leon]

Zanna you must remember one thing first all mediums work completely different from each other. Some are better than others and some are worse, like in all professions. Now bearing this in mind if your Dad did want to get through at a certain time, he would be up against that specific mediums ability to sense him. The mediums you have sought may be different characters to your dad, therefore making it more difficult to make contact. As like attracts like. As we become friends with like minded people, mediums find it easier to contact like minded people as well. Given all these factors, I would not beat yourself up that he has not come through for a long while. Imagine if he was keeping his next appearance for a special occasion or when you needed his help most. If he had turned up every week maybe you would not listen to his words when he needs to put them across most. lastly we all have troubles at sometimes with our parents, or feel less loved than a sibling, these may not get resolved before death, but you must not blame yourself. We can only be true to our own feelings, in the end your good thoughts will be repayed, as the light emanating from someone can not be missed between this world and the world of spirit. God bless

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[zanna]

Bless you both for your kind & loving words, it'f funny you know that I have actually found more loving words from you both than I ever had from my own partner & he's suppose to be my soul-mate??? Now there's a thought. Take care may you all be surrounded by your ever loving angels, guides & loved one's.xxx

[Leon]

It is a lot to say someone is a soul mate, yet gives so little in your eyes. Common sense will tell you that the term soul mate is banded around too easily, just as the word love is. Love will stand the test of time, just as a true sou mate will always show his or her colours in a time of need. God Bless.

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[tonyj1]

It is my beleif that spirits will come with a message when it suits them and the recipient. Also that in the spirit world the spirits may also have to develop the ability to link with different mediums in order to pass messages back to you.
Time may not be a factor in the spirit world as it is a man made measure not a law of nature therefore what may be years to you may be just a heartbeat to the spirit

hope this helps

don't give up hope but have patience and I am sure you will get the message your heart desires


Tony

[sparklekaz]

Dear Zanna,

I know exactly how you feel sweetheart, I felt like it too when my Mum died. Mum and I had talked about the afterlife before she passed, many times. She knew she was really ill, and she would say to me, don't you worry Kaz, if there is anything there, I will do my best to come back and let you know. Although we often argued, she was a bossy so and so..always pushed my buttons..lol I loved her dearly and we were very close, also living the nearest, I saw a lot of her, especially when she was ill.

When she died, it was a massive shock, as she was getting better. She had been ill so many times, and come thru, we kind of got lulled into a false sense of security. So I felt shock and surprise that I had not seen it coming. I was very sensitive and always knew when she needed me. This I did not see!! So there was this sense of being cheated, no opportunity to say goodbye.

I waited night after night, day after day for a sign, nothing. I moaned and wailed, why not, was everything I believed in for nothing. Was it all a lie, cos if anyone would come back, it would be my mum. She had mind energy and will power, in bucket loads. Well except for giving up her f*gs. But thats another story. I spoke to a lovely lady, who explained to me, that the sheer strength of my grief, could create such a barrier, that would make it almost impossible for mum to get thru to me. She had also died very suddenly. Sometimes, when they cross over, they need some care, or to sleep for a while, to recover from a sudden and traumatic transition. Remember time, does not have the same meaning in the spirit world as it does here. For them, it might only seem like a day has passed instead of months or years even.

Just send out love and they hear our thoughts and when the time is right, he will come to you, I promise..

Lots of love
Karen

[zanna]

Thank you all so much for your kind words, God bless,xxx