Always Do The Right Thing

[Leon]

I sent the following tweet out awhile back, I wrote it after being confronted with bad behaviour from neighbours. I contemplated for a time, whether I should act or do nothing. Many people turn a blind eye to bad behaviour as they are worried about making circumstances worse. I am not one to shirk from dealing with trouble, but I still had to consider the consequences for me and those I love. In the end I did the right thing, I am a man of action, I don't sit back when things start to go bad. I am ready to do battle on behalf of anyone who has been wrongly treated. From the reaction the tweet got, you can see many think the same, but sadly there are many who will not act upon their good thoughts.

[hera]

I could have done with you around a few times Leon. I have dreadful neighbours and being a girl who lives alone am way too scared to confront them, so they get away with whatever they choose.

Glad that you managed to resolve your problem to your satisfaction

[Leon]

I am sure most of us have had a bad neighbour at sometime in our life, we cannot choose who decides to move next door to us, but we can decide how we deal with a situation. There are no right and wrong ways to deal with problems of this kind. You just have to try not to react, but to be pro-active in finding a solution, or a way of living with as little friction as possible.

[aceofcups]

An interesting question to me on this..

Are we in any way connected to the situations we have in life or it just by chance we are dealing with a certain issue?

I know from understanding astrology... that you can usually find in one's astrology chart if one knows astrological symbolism .. (in example used... neighbors are ruled by the third house) -- so will your astrology chart show some difficult astrological aspect in the third house during that cycle or if in the natal chart it maybe a reoccurring issue with that aspect?

Just interesting questions to me.    Because I have found many times in one's astrology chart the types of issues are shown in chart.. if one can read them.


But as was said - the main issue and learning experience is how one deals with an issue.   You can get inklings how an individual "may" act but that's is not always as much shown by chart.  How a person is using the chart's energy in their life is by individual choice. By our choices we create our own self.

peace

[hera]

I agree Ace, but would also suggest looking at the moon (home) and it's aspects for further information.
My moon is tightly conjunct Neptune which might indicate a lack of impenetrable boundaries and I have indeed always had problems with the home in varying forms. Also IC is in Pisces which further strengthens this.

[aceofcups]

Thank you Hera for your insight.

What you said in your earlier post "too scared to confront them" would certainly fit in with your moon-neptune conjunction aspect.. non-withstanding any other energy patterns in your natal chart.

peace
ace

[stonewall]

I think it is important to be reasonable and persuasive when dealing with difficult neighbours or people in general.
Something along the lines " If we could do that please, I sure would be grateful " works for me.

[sparklekaz]

I always try to do the 'right thing'. But it helps to remember, that what may seem perfectly right and reasonable to me, might not to someone else. I do try to see things from both sides. But it is a bit frustrating when more often than not, other people don't try to do the same thing. I remember someone telling me once, that the best way to diffuse an angry situation, is to send then love. But that is easier said than done when you have a irate person screaming at you.

More often than not, whether its wrong or right, I choose to walk away. When someone is angry, they stop listening to anything you have to say. Not all, but many. I think we can pretty much tell from the beginning, who is open to reason, and who isn't. Who is fixated on their own point of view, and who is willing to listen to yours. Some might say that walking away is weak. That to show weakness or allow poor behaviour to continue, is enabling the other person. Letting them get away with it, could make them think, they are right or justified in their reaction and attitude. But if someone is closed off, is there any point in only getting more into it to try to convince them we are right. That is if we are.

After some unfortunate experiences I have had with troublesome neighbours, I have recently decided to keep myself to myself. It really just isn't worth the hassle. How sad is that!

Love and light
Kaz

[aceofcups]

I don't think it is sad Kaz,, in Buddhism it is called living by "skillful means". Acting the most compassionate way for all involved in each situation.

I learned years ago that people see things from their own point of view. What has created their point of view as individuals? NATURE or NURTURE question --- was if from their upbringing of family or peers? Was it from learning? one’s psychological makeup? OR was others parts from the energy blueprint they have inherently within themselves. Or a combination of all of them?

 Is there only one way which is right way to act.  Or can even contradictory ways where both be right?

I lived for many years as part of a spiritual community which was dedicated to trying to be of spiritual service to others. You would think people who get along pretty well with that Ideal as their motto.
But unfortunately it is not always that way in real life. People would get very attached to their points of view of how to serve, what the community focus should be, etc. I was on the board of trustees of the community and all the board members where extremely loving, spiritually aware and dedicated to a spiritual process, but would get very attached to their vision of how it could be implemented. Each believing they were doing the best for others not just for selfish reasons.

These days I live at a senior housing facility. With very different types of people. People who have very traditional conservative leaning beliefs about religion and politics. I am very friendly with all the residents here, help them out where I can. But have strong inner intuition which has lead to a conviction to never discuss anything about religion, spiritually or politics with them.

One must learn to attune to each group, each person and ascertain where they come from in their beliefs. As Kaz I think said..you get to build up a spiritual radar of learning the best way to act and react with skillful means for each situation.

peace