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Post by Leon on Nov 10, 2006 0:55:22 GMT
Can one learn anything from self hatred, whether it be a part of our personality or bodily feature. Some talk of loving ourselves or loving what is wrong with us to make the part we hate disappear. Feed it with love and not more hatred, which will only make whatever the problem is, become worse from more negative thinking. But as with most ways of being, it is easier said than done. So what can we learn about disliking parts of us that in-turn make up the whole of us. Do we need a balance of good and bad in us or is the answer more deeper. Or more complicated than us human beings can comprehend. Firstly why love what you dislike, is that not going against human nature. We all have tastes, all personal to our beliefs. Likes and dislikes picked up over time, these may change from one day to the next. One day you will like a certain thing the next you may go off it all together, and not want to touch it again. So in the same way do we change what we like and dislike in ourselves, in the way we do about cars, perfumes, chocolates etc etc. Do we just choose to like or dislike a trait or bodily feature one day and dislike it the next. What governs these changes in thoughts! Should we not look at this for the answer. www.thegodlight.co.uk |
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Post by sparklekaz on Nov 10, 2006 17:10:44 GMT
I think self examination is a good thing to do...I know that I have a strong personality, strong likes and dislikes, and I also know that I have certain traits, that I wish I could get rid of..
I have tried, to stamp out my love of chocolate..and succeeded, until my next bad day..lol
I do welcome constructive criticism, because, I want to improve myself, be it a work, or at home. The down side is that I then worry that because I have been seen to fail at a certain thing, or not do well, that I lose respect in the eyes of my peers. I like to think if I have to give constructive criticism, I do it tactfully and with sensitivity, as this is how I would like to be treated. but then agonise over what has been said to me. I worry too much about what others think, so I hold back. I have a terrible fear of rejection, yet have been the rejector. Maybe the very thing we are afraid of we do first, so as not to be on the receiving end. All these things I know about myself and try as I might, it is hard to change.
When I was very young, my parents were extremely aggressive physically and verbally. To each other, and to us. I grew up frightened of physical violence, and with a fear of losing control. I find it hard to let go of my emotions. Yes, I am loving and affectionate, but I find it hard to let go, as in trusting others. My parents both having bad tempers, I was aware, that I had it in me, to be similar. When my children were young, there were many times, that I lost my temper, but I restrained myself, and never lashed out violently. I tried to hold my tongue, and remember the cruel words said in the heat of the moment, can stay in a child's psyche forever..and affect their self esteem for a life time. I hope I succeeded..you would have to ask my children, how well..I I had my last good hiding aged 21, never would wish that on my children.
Self examination..what about self change..and how we go about it..
Love and light
Karen
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Post by undineworker on Nov 10, 2006 19:56:05 GMT
My dear Karen, we are more alike than you realise as I had an abusive alcoholic mother who was also verbally and physically violent - to this day I have an abhorrence of violence in all its forms and yes, I would never wish that on anyone. I hope you will heal. The legacy of this form of violence is that it leaves you with such low self esteem you sometimes wish the ground would open up and swallow you but the odd thing too is that you become a kind of desperate people-pleaser. I used to really worry what people thought all the time too until I became aware that we are all the same person - this profound truth hit me square between the eyes one day I was cycling along, and I could suddenly feel the interconnectedness of all things and I stopped worrying about what people thought, as we are all one. How can you possibly hate any part of yourself or anyone else, when it is all part of the same thing? Incredible as it may sound, it suddenly clicks into place and you begin to feel true compassion and learn that by helping someone else along their spiritual path you are actually helping yourself at the same time - do not ever hate any one thing or it will turn around and hurt you back. You always get what you give out. I have been on the receiving end of such a huge rude tongue-bashing from a guy at work but I prayed and prayed that I would not hold it against him and instead I sent him healing feelings, and this afternoon he was really nice to me!
Love and Light
Lizzie xx
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Post by sunflower on Nov 11, 2006 12:22:18 GMT
Hey guys, its november 11! 11:11 hmmmm this has been coming up again for me. It comes in streaks like maybe a few weeks at a time where I see it. I feel it is a good thing and I know we have talked about this before but just wanted to bring it to your attention! 11:11 love and light jess
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Post by Leon on Nov 11, 2006 14:22:42 GMT
It is 11th day of the 11th month. You should of waited till 11:11 am to make your post. You get another chance at 11:11pm Jess. Take care. www.thegodlight.co.uk |
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Post by sparklekaz on Nov 11, 2006 18:44:08 GMT
Hey Jesse, something else about today too..its Remembrance Sunday, at 11pm on the 11/11 we all stopped for 2 minutes to remember all that have fallen in conflict..it hit me tonight...
Lots of love
Karen
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