ARE YOU WORTHY OF LOVE?

[cyberangel]

Why is it so hard for us to love ourselves?

So many come to chat and the forum with relationship worries and problems and have questions and seek answers.

We as a race cannot love others until we learn to love and respect ourselves first. I mean we all have little issues about confidence, self image etc, but that is only our superficial being or our outer side,...but at our core, that is where our true self is, our true essence.

It’s nearly impossible to go through life without family, friends and society molding us or pigeon holing us into what is considered the ‘norm’. Well we are ‘not’ normal each of us is Unique!

Each of us has our own gifts and talents. Some of us are aware of them and some of us are not YET but all of us have something that contributes to this life, ALL OF US.

Most people have a desire to attract and feel love, and that is natural as it is in most of nature. Each desires at some point to have a mate, a lifelong friend who we can love and be loved.

So how do we ‘find’ that one person out of billions on our planet?

Well I don’t think we find one person, I think we find many throughout our lives, many that teach us more about ourselves and learn from many, and with each relationship we either take or build from it, but ‘True Love’ in my opinion is not merely found its drawn to our inner self. True love recognises part of itself within another and there is where the connection is made.

So that is why it’s so very important to Love yourself first as you want to draw the attention of the best possible love for you. Many find that they go from one ‘bad’ relationship to another, that is because deep down they feel they are not worthy of anything else.

Everyone dreams of the fairytale but few manage to live it. Why?

Relationships need work and energy not just with the other person but with ourselves first. How can we share with another that which we don’t have ourselves? True love feeds one another equally, where two truly become one in the essence of love.

Another thing, it’s ok to say “I LOVE MYSELF” because in doing so, you are affirming that you are worthy of love being loved.

I just wanted to share this from the bottom of my heart, because we are ALL worth it

LOVE and Light xxxx

I've included a youtube video of the famous Beetles Song "All you need is Love". Enjoy the music and please read the amazing lyrics...and above all Sing Along

[holistichealer]

I'll post a thread under Alternative Healing on EFT and other similar therapies that, I think, you'll find is related to this.

But in general, learn to forgive yourself and move on, keeping the lessons related to the "need" for forgiveness and not carrying the guilt.

It's not what you "did", but what you "do" that's important.

It's not what happened to you, but what you do about what happened that's ultimately important.

[cyberangel]

Ah a very good point Holistic indeed, we MUST forgive, ourselves and others, so we can be free once more to Love. I'll look forward to your post on EFT and other therapies

Thank you

Love and Light

[gruntal]

I have given up on the human race. Dysfunctional. No use for me even trying for now.

I do think my dog still loves me.

Oddly it makes no difference because I think there is a higher source to it all. It is difficult to find because I do not know where I am. Since I do not I feel very detached from myself which may explain why I do not take care of myself. Assuming all I can do is observe for now I will experiment in acts of compassion and rudimentary benevolence.

Anything to keep busy. It is just that when it is quiet and still I wonder where I am.

Being grounded is much more important that we think it is. My dog never worries about things because he has me to take care of him. He tries to break free from the leash and he does chase rabbits all by himself. But he always comes back home and that is why he will never be more then my beloved Poochie. The highest calling is to leave home. At some level it is possible for some but at another level it is all but impossible to most because then you do not know where you are. There might be a hidden meaning there.


In the mean time I have tons of work to do cleaning up after my "German Shedder". I swear I think there is fur in my laptop keyboard! I do want to even think about the hidden meaning to that.

[cyberangel]

Dear Gruntal,

I am rushing out but had to give you a quick 'Hello' as I really liked your post.

Please dont give up on us as a human race, I know its hard not too but we're worth it really. There are some real good people out there which I believe compensate for those who are not so 'good'

You remind me of the Lion out of the wizard of oz, not in a cowardly way but in a way that I can see you show a fierce front but I believe inside you are soft and need a cuddle from time to time, a bit like poochie

We all have great potential within each of us, if we just muster enough strength and courage to find it and then be brave enough to show it.

Big kisses to poochie and warm heartfelt hugs to you, my friend

Love and light

PS. My dog Patch is also molting at the moment lol it's the time of year, I'm just not ready to shed my coat yet for too cold yet for that lol.

[jesusrose]

Great post Cyber!

For me the big 'aha' moment was when I felt that we 'ARE' love. Created from it and living proof of the energy the unites the universe.

[sparklekaz]

Dear Lorraine,

A good question, why indeed do we find it so hard to love ourselves? This is a question, I have asked myself many times. I think ultimately, it comes down to self esteem. Do we believe we are worthy of love! The sad fact is, many do not. Why this is, I do not know. It maybe that when they were small and their sense of self worth was forming, they did not receive the unconditional love from their parents that they should have done. It could be, that over time, a lack of confidence in themselves has grown, through a period of negative experiences.

I believe it takes a strong character, to retain a positive sense of self, when continually meeting with failure or rejection. Have you noticed also, how many people are quick to take all the blame, when things go wrong. They don't even consider, that other people may have played their part in how a situation played out. It is very easy to slip into this 'victim' mentality. Which also perpetuates a sense of helplessness and lack of control over their own lives. I wish I could take everyone of them by the hand, and in the beautiful words of the poet Hafiz of Shiraz “I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” People, just don't realise how powerful and beautiful they are. How incredibly lovable they are. I always say, the measure of which we can feel, love, joy and pain within, can be used as a yardstick to show you, how much love you are capable of and hold within yourself.

I have learned that no one has the right to define us or judge us. We are so much more then what can be seen on the surface. No one is perfect, we have all made mistakes, hurt someone or been hurt. As the Buddha has said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection". It is not selfish or narcissistic to love yourself. To be tender and patient with yourself when you are in pain or not well. To be loving and forgiving with yourself when you make mistakes. If someone you cared for were truly remorseful, would you not extend forgiveness to that person. So why are you any less worthy?

I will end with a quote by In the words of Alan Cohen “Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself.

The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out”. He puts it far more eloquently then I ever could.

A quick note to George (Gruntal) I do not think you have totally given up on the human species George, for you enjoy interacting here with us, almost as much as we enjoy the interaction with you. As my mum used to say, if you look for the good in others, that is what you will see. But if you look for the bad, or the negative, that becomes your world too.

Love and light
Kaz