Dilemma

[undineworker]

I have just been told by my colleague - the lady I work with - that her mother whom she lives with (her father being dead) has been diagnosed with breast cancer.

I have never known anyone who had cancer, and I am wondering how I can help her. I offered to be there, to listen, and to be a shoulder but she is the kind of person who does not open up and share her feelings easily and she is trying to be "strong" for her mother. She is not succeeding. I keep trying to say to her that she needs to let it all out and talk about her own feelings, not try to be strong, but she will not.

Does anyone have any experience of this sort of situation, or intuition on how I can best deal with this?

I would be very grateful for any and all input, as I want to help but do not know where to begin.

Love and Light

Lizzie xx

[Leon]

Hi Lizzie. There is not much you can do for your friend than other your help if she needs it. Tell her you feel for her and her family and you will help if called upon. But you can not force your help on people that may not want help or are not ready. Lots of people have their own way of dealing with grief, maybe different front mine or yours but it's their way. I myself have been pushed in the past by one or two people that wanted to help me. They pushed and pushed for problems that I did'nt even have, or problems I did not wish to share with them, as I felt their help was not needed. So please tread carefully. Take care Lizzie love Leon

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[undineworker]

thanks Leon. I would never push my help on anyone. I really do feel for her and I know her very well - I understand that maybe her soul's purpose in this life is to come to terms with something which involves dealing with grief and I would never interfere. Interference is very different from offering to help though. It is practically that I want to help. That is difficult.
I hear what you are saying and thank you for your advice.

Love and Light

Lizzie xx