Post by donq on Jul 31, 2014 6:46:38 GMT
George Bernard Shaw said,
“There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it.”
And Oscar Wilde said,
“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”
No need to find who said it first because (it’s said) they were close friends. Anyway, both of them sounded very Buddhists to me.
In Buddhism, there are three main things that bring dukkha (suffering) to us (just a bit mention, don't worry, I'm not going to preach here) :
1. Craving for sensual pleasure; sensual craving
2. Craving for existence
3. Craving for non-existence
As for 1, no need for more explanation here. You’ve got an idea.
As for 2, craving for existence means wanting to have/be. And when one doesn’t have what one wants; cannot be who/what one wants to be, then s/he suffers.
About craving for non-existence is contrary to craving for existence. One already got what one doesn’t want or already has been who/what one doesn’t want to be, then s/he suffers.
I read somewhere (cannot recall it now) about old and young. A young man complains that he wants to be like a car, can go anywhere he wants, not only goes straight on the railway all the time. While an old man complains that he wants to be like a train as he is too tried to turn away from the main line. It’s a lot more easy to goes only on the railway that’s already been there.
So, as Hamlet said, “To be, or not to be: that is the question”? :-)
I don’t know. But I like what F.Scott Fitzgerald said, “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.”
Yes, whether you are old or young, you have to cope with these two kinds of cravings: for existence and non-existence. We cannot get what we want all the time. Neither do we can get rid of what we don’t want. How we still keep going so well, that’s counted.
As an old man myself, I’m thinking of this story:
An old man, listening to the pitter-patter of rain, thought of both the melancholy and joyous sounds of storm. He thought of the inconvenience of traveling in inclement weather and the life-giving moisture the rain brings. He remembered that, to some, this is a source of annoyance; but it is essential for all growing things. As his mind flowed to these confluences of sound and thought, he recalled something his father told him as a child. “There is sadness in beauty,” the father said, “when you understand that, you will no longer be a boy.”
“There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it.”
And Oscar Wilde said,
“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”
No need to find who said it first because (it’s said) they were close friends. Anyway, both of them sounded very Buddhists to me.
In Buddhism, there are three main things that bring dukkha (suffering) to us (just a bit mention, don't worry, I'm not going to preach here) :
1. Craving for sensual pleasure; sensual craving
2. Craving for existence
3. Craving for non-existence
As for 1, no need for more explanation here. You’ve got an idea.
As for 2, craving for existence means wanting to have/be. And when one doesn’t have what one wants; cannot be who/what one wants to be, then s/he suffers.
About craving for non-existence is contrary to craving for existence. One already got what one doesn’t want or already has been who/what one doesn’t want to be, then s/he suffers.
I read somewhere (cannot recall it now) about old and young. A young man complains that he wants to be like a car, can go anywhere he wants, not only goes straight on the railway all the time. While an old man complains that he wants to be like a train as he is too tried to turn away from the main line. It’s a lot more easy to goes only on the railway that’s already been there.
So, as Hamlet said, “To be, or not to be: that is the question”? :-)
I don’t know. But I like what F.Scott Fitzgerald said, “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.”
Yes, whether you are old or young, you have to cope with these two kinds of cravings: for existence and non-existence. We cannot get what we want all the time. Neither do we can get rid of what we don’t want. How we still keep going so well, that’s counted.
As an old man myself, I’m thinking of this story:
An old man, listening to the pitter-patter of rain, thought of both the melancholy and joyous sounds of storm. He thought of the inconvenience of traveling in inclement weather and the life-giving moisture the rain brings. He remembered that, to some, this is a source of annoyance; but it is essential for all growing things. As his mind flowed to these confluences of sound and thought, he recalled something his father told him as a child. “There is sadness in beauty,” the father said, “when you understand that, you will no longer be a boy.”