Post by ankupka on Apr 19, 2014 8:46:10 GMT
Step 2: Say YES to everything that is.
And why should you? Why should you say YES to something that is unpleasant, hurtful, and possibly even horrific for you?
Well, very simply, because it already IS. Your resistance will not make it go away. You are fighting reality which resembles Don Quixote fighting the windmills – a futile endeavour. Your ‘No’ to something that already is will only eat up a lot of valuable energy that you might instead use to consciously change the situation. By resisting it, you give it more power (‘where attention goes, energy flows’), by accepting it, you are freeing up the space that is necessary to transform the situation.
Plus, maybe we can open ourselves up to the idea that whatever is, is good the way it is. That everything that is, plays a vital role in the wider picture of life, even if we cannot see its purpose just yet. It often takes great courage to say ‘Yes’ when the situation seems to be screaming for a ‘No’. But if I were to add another step to Robert Betz’ 5 steps of transformation, I would add unconditional trust. Trusting that everything is ok the way it is, no matter what, allowing oneself to surrender to the irrational, relinquishing the need to understand everything right away, is a huge luxury and gives us room to breathe and to relax.
Eckhardt Tolle summarizes it as follows:
Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.
And why should you? Why should you say YES to something that is unpleasant, hurtful, and possibly even horrific for you?
Well, very simply, because it already IS. Your resistance will not make it go away. You are fighting reality which resembles Don Quixote fighting the windmills – a futile endeavour. Your ‘No’ to something that already is will only eat up a lot of valuable energy that you might instead use to consciously change the situation. By resisting it, you give it more power (‘where attention goes, energy flows’), by accepting it, you are freeing up the space that is necessary to transform the situation.
Plus, maybe we can open ourselves up to the idea that whatever is, is good the way it is. That everything that is, plays a vital role in the wider picture of life, even if we cannot see its purpose just yet. It often takes great courage to say ‘Yes’ when the situation seems to be screaming for a ‘No’. But if I were to add another step to Robert Betz’ 5 steps of transformation, I would add unconditional trust. Trusting that everything is ok the way it is, no matter what, allowing oneself to surrender to the irrational, relinquishing the need to understand everything right away, is a huge luxury and gives us room to breathe and to relax.
Eckhardt Tolle summarizes it as follows:
Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.
