How to get rid of negative energy/people

[vickyk79]

Hello to everyone

I have a problem which I won't go into, it is to do with my ex and custody arrangements. him and his new girlfriend are sending me negative energy, to my face and at other times which I can feel - I felt it very bad this morning at 4am then my ex said that he was thinking about me at that time!
He is a very angry person, dominant and a master 33 number although not spiritual at all.
Our son is 13 months old and I am worried about him being psychologically damaged by this man.
I am trying my best to be strong and positive, and hoping the situation will calm down.
what can I do to deflect this negative energy?
I am praying, and trying to visualise but the fear is still there and blocking my connection with the divine.
Sorry to join this forum with a rather heavy subject!
Vicky

[emeraldspirit]

Hello Vicky

Welcome to Godlight Very nice to have you here.

My name is Jo, one of the many admins on this site who may be able to offer advice and help you in your current situation. If you wish to come into our chatroom you will find many more people from all over the world willing and ready to help you .

As to your problem with negative energy, my advice would be to psychically protect yourself at all times. You mention that you visualise, what form does this take? Praying is a good idea, please keep this up. You may find this helpful, it is what I do to protect myself from negative energies and vibrations, here is the affirmation I say mostly at night, BUT you can use it throughout the day also:

"Divine and Infinite Spirit,
Please place a Golden Cloak of Protection around myself, (and my loved ones),
Please encase me in a suit of armour and place me in a pure white bubble,
To protect me from negative energies, harmful vibrations, and evil entities who for whatever reason may wish to harm me in mind, body, and soul,
If this is for the greater good, let it be so,
Amen"

This should keep you fully protected from the harmful energies around you, you also seem quite sensitive, being able to sense when negative energy is directed at you, so it is especially important that you keep yourself protected at all times.

Are you aware of your spirit guides and angel helpers? If so then you can say the affirmation above but change it to ask the angels to place protection over your property and gardens, also asking the gatekeepers to stand guard at your door may help, they keep out unwanted things.

You can use crystals to help protect yourself, I would recommend rose quartz and black tourmaline, as these two are a particularly good choice if you are looking for a protective crystal.

Also, there is this technique which may seem slightly aggressive but it is very effective:

"The Psychic Mirror"

Mentally picture a mirror between you and the person you are having problems with. Visualise the energies from this person coming near you but harmlessly bouncing off the mirror infront of you, this will reflect the person's behaviour back at them, therefore deflecting it away from yourself.

A great way of 'washing away' negative energy is to do just that, take a relaxing bath or wash your clothes and hang them out to dry on a cool crisp night with the moon in the sky, even just a normal sunny day, this will clear the negative energy from your clothes so it will not touch your skin and be absorbed into nature where it will be taken into the earth and harmlessly transformed back into positive energy to reuse.

My last piece of advice would be to try and send love and healing to your ex and his new girlfriend, however hard this may be, perhaps if you direct your loving thoughts towards them then they will receive this subconsciously and project it towards you.

I hope some of this advice helps you Vicky, I look forward to hopefully speaking with you soon.

Take care xx

[vickyk79]

Jo

Thank for you your reply, I have found it very helpful. I really like the affirmation and am going to repeat it throughout the day now, it really helps create a strong picture in my mind.

I have used the mirror one before, but lately my mind has been overwrought so I haven't been able to concentrate for long or connect with my spirit guides, although I do feel them touching my face.

I am wearing black tourmaline which I regulary cleanse.

This man has very powerful energy, but has a huge amount of anger.

I know I have to let go of my fear for this to end, which is easier said than done! I am going to try to stay focused today, thanks so much for your reply, hope you are well

Have a good day

Love Vicky

[emeraldspirit]

No problem Vicky, glad I could help in some way

Hope things turn out okay for you.

Emerald xx

[cntrydncr]

Emerald,
I know that Vicky posted that post, but just wanted to thank you for your insight! It really helped.

[emeraldspirit]

Hi cntrydncr

No problem, I hope you get good use out of it

Emerald x

[rosesrblu111]

Now how does one deal with negative family? Your family is your blood one can't decide not to have them as family anymore. Anyways how does one deal with family? I have tried to change how I think but people don't change and that negativity knocks you down when you think you are up and happy. Jackie

[sparklekaz]

Dear Jackie,

I know it is much simpler to distance yourself from negative people, when they are friends or acquaintances then when they are members of your own family.

To me this is all about lack of respect. It does not matter if someone is related to you or not, they should still respect your personal boundaries, and your right to make your own decisions. There is an old saying, that "over familiarity, breeds contempt". My understanding of this expression, is that if someone 'thinks' they know you well, or they have known you for years or since you were born, as is the case with members of your own family, it gives them the right, to invade your personal space, or dictate to you how you should live your life, questioning your decisions. Even if the decisions we make go wrong. Isn't it better to suffer the consequences of your own errors, then following the advice of someone else. I know which I would prefer.

This does not just happen with family members, it can also happen with friends of long standing. I would say the way to deal with this, should be exactly the same, regardless of your relationship to them. That you make it clear, whilst you appreciate that they may care for you and express their concerns from a position of love or affection. You are a grown women, are entitled to be treated with respect, and that you are more then capable of making your own decisions. Unless you have asked for advice, they should keep their thoughts to themselves.

Whatever decision you make about your own life, is yours to make and no one else's. If they really cared about you, they would stand by you and support you, no matter what that decision was. That is the sign of a true friend. Not taking offense and being unkind to you, if you don't comply with their wishes.

The exercises that have been shown in the above post, can be used with anyone, who disturbs you and makes you feel ill, through their unkind words and behaviour. Being a family member, does not give anyone carte blanche, to ride over your feelings without care, or to dictate to you how you should live your life. Ultimately, it is about how you stand firm in your own thoughts, and about how much power you allow them over you. People can only affect your mood and energy, if you give them the power to do so. So don't give your power away. You are mistress of your own destiny, no one else.

Love and light
Kaz

[elisa]

Very good advice Kaz, people forget how easily they give up their own power. If you empower people, they will be able to deal with negative energies or people much easier.

Namaste Friends.

[Leon]

You attract similar people to the lessons you need to learn in life. If you have not risen above the particular lesson, you will keep getting similar people, who bring negativity.

Yes it is a viscous circle, but not impossible to get out of. Our own negativity brings people close who are on a similar vibration. We need to rise our vibration to a higher level, to first make ourself feel positive, then our positivity will either repel or attract people at this higher level of being.

You can start with a short affirmation.

With all of my heart, I trust myself, I love myself, I am the master of my own destiny, I am a child of God and his loving presence surrounds me.

But remember there are no short cuts to changing your life, on a daily basis you must remove the old and unneeded ways of being and replace them with the new. Filled with light, born of understanding for all beings.